Hey,

So i met this girl around 2 weeks ago, we hit it off pretty well, i think i played perfect game as she was qualifying herself to me and everyone we were with was like "shes so into you man", i was stoked.
At the end of a night out, we left but she ended up bailing in another direction saying she wanted to take the "quick" way. I was shocked n kicked myself.
The next morn i got a msg from her saying she was kiking herself that she didnt walk hom with me blabla (she begged my friend for my number)

Now the problem was that that happenend on a thursday and i was going away for the weekend, we msgd each other n stuff, teasing ect. I got really worked up about seeing her... i got back sunday night, asked to see her, she said she was busy.. i was cut, but ok.
She said monday night for sure but she went to a work party n got drunk so she didnt show. By that time i just gave up, i think some how she has reversed it and now im qualifying myself.. HELP!
Saw her the other night and i asked for the kiss she (Yes i was drunk) and i know its probably hurt me the most...

How can i turn this situation around, i don't really want to scrap it, she seems cool and if she has survived this much game and cracked it, i'd say shes worth it.

Opinions? Comments? Advice?

You're over-thinking things and putting too much thought and effort into what you're doing. If you're constantly texting her and trying to get her attention she knows that she has power over you. You might have screwed things up with the "asking for a kiss" part depending on how you worded it exactly. That's why it's important to discipline yourself not to text when you're drunk. Your best bet is to back off and wait for her to text or call you to further continue things. If she doesn't contact you in a week, then text her casually and continue on as before.

~Antithesis

She sent me a msg last night, this is how it went:

HER :" Do you hate me? " (probs cause i hadnt talked to her or sent her a msg in about ~4-5 days.
ME: "Whos this? "
HER: "Ha, guess that my answer! Love you too.Ha" (Because it was a msg couldnt tell if it was a good or bad reply)
ME: " Lol, i'll call you tomorrow"

I guess it kinda set me up for a 2nd chance, ill be able to readjust myself with DHV.

Little update, she didn't pick up and i didn't leave a msg since i dont hide my number.

Personally i think it was to "get back at me" for the "whos this?" but then again i could be wrong

Im thinking with this girl that she just wants me to take utter control as (to refere to my originial post) when i asked for the kiss her reply was that i "wasnt worthy" when im pretty much sure she wanted it. I probs should have just danced really heavily with her (i asked on the dancefloor) and then just went for it after building sexual attraction.

Thoughts?

I think she definitely tried to reverse it on you. Notice how you didn't talk to her for 4-5 days and she texted you? I would say you are little on the attracted side with this girl. I would reccomend carrying on with your life and avoid thinking about her. Also avoid contacting her day after day, if you are.. you don't want to communicate that you depend on her.

For that last line on the text convo you had I would have kept messing around.

PUA: Love you to? Who is this again?

Your line "I will call you tomorrow" somewhat shows that you depend on her. Avoid saying things that show that you depend on her at all costs.

Good luck
- Don D. Flow

Dam, what an awsome reply! haha, yer i got to get ontop of this!

Thanks for the tips

Update: i sent her a msg this morn (before i read the above comment) :
ME: " Sweet,loveable,charming,gorgeous. Enough about me how are you?"

Her: " ha,u wish!yeah good. just wanted you to know that i want to be friendss with you, i dont want you to hate me. k Smile " - (this referes to the above text which was sent around 1-2 days ago)

So errr. WTF. Lol.

Is this a game technique or is it time to wrap it up? Any girl opinions?

Ps: im 99% sure i've never frolicked the "LJBF" border, so this was a surprise to me

Don't comply with her in this situation.

Just say "I'm not sure we could be friends, your just too nice for me"

Remember to not give a shit. If you comply with her you will lower your value. Leave her wondering why you didn't act like every other guy.

Then don't ever contact her again unless she contacts you. Otherwise you will just be treated as a friend.

From her texts, timegap and her behaviour I sense this girl has a problem. Sh ehas low self esteem.

If you dig into her past you'd find that she prolly did not have a great relation w/ her family, not a protected sheltered childhood may be, she must have had been cheated or duped by guys or ppl she trusted.

She would react to slight negs very well. And yeah dont show her your hand i.e. dont tell her that U like her that would make her seek ur approval.

We can talk about this in detail if u like.

From my perspective, she is definetely trying to gain the control over you.
Dont let her though.
I'd do what antic suggests, just dont comply to the situation.
Be in control, be the cool guy even more... be the prize!

One-Itis dude. Move on. Shes definitely trying to keep you under control, also sounds like shes playing games with you. Just next her.

I liked it, i used it, her reply:

- "i dont get it..what do you mean?"

If i reply " i like adventurous people ... blabla" or something like that its gonna mean i comply with her friendship hoop.

Or i could neg " I liked you better when you were more switched on" ( i know its shit but i have a blank mind SPAM)

Or, send her " if you can answer me this, ill tell you: how do you keep a blond girl in suspense?" "
then reply a day or 2 later and say "thats how" (yes she is blond)

Nice one. You didn't act like every other guy and comply with her to just be friends. At least now you have got her thinking.

Just avoid the question and make her comply with you:
"Well I could make an exception. Do you give good back massages?"

Otherwise I would reply:
"I didn't want it to come to this but since we can't be friends I will have to hate you."

Don't worry if she doesn't reply. I mean what do you have to lose. Her friendship? If she continues to talk to you than she's most probably interested.

Liked it again as it could bring up new opportunities!

But this was her reply :
"What are you on about?"

I replied:
"Woops sorry wrong [name]"

I think this kinda gives me an edge, and didnt make me look like some lost looser.
I don't think i'll contact her again. I know we will talk soonish as we have mutual friends.

Unless someone has a different road to take?

Ha ha, the old woops I wasn't meant to send that to you msg.

I would just leave it at that.