Newbie here as you can obviously tell. Bit of background on the situation that I need help with, Im currently just hoping I havent screwed it up too bad.

I have been at my office for 5 months and there is the girl who is a HB 8.5. We only started talking properly roughly a month ago due to my lunch hour changing to the same as hers. We started off in the kitchen with other people around and I started off with normal chat and then started to neg her in a playful way. She was laughing and was doing the same back and the banter was great. After week of this there was a work party at a resort a few miles from where I live and she asked if I was attended, I told her yes I will be but Ill be driving from training to there and driving back as I dont normally drink. This caused her to be even more playful with me and got her to start saying she is going to get me drunk etc.

Come the day of the party I ring a friend of mine who was already there to see how it is. She grabs the phone off him and asks where I am and how long till I get there. So I arrive there using some stuff I have learnt like body language and how to hold you drink etc, I walk in and get a massive hello and a smile from here. So I reply and get back to talking to my mate. Later in the night we make eye contact and she comes over and we have a chat etc. So towards the end of the night Im not a bit drunk as I decided to drink and her offering me some of her drinks got me to that state where I couldnt drive and decided I would just crash in my mates hotel room. So this girl is about to leave to go back to her room and tells me this, so I tell her im coming with her as Im tired and tell my friend that when he gets back to give me a call so I can come and sleep in his room.

So off we go back to the hotel just talking. I done a ESP number trick on here which she loved when I got both numbers right. So we get on talking and the playful banter. NOw I know she has a boyfriend and also she tells me that at the Christmas party she slept with the bosses son and has a soft spot for him. So this is where I start to think I cant be bothered with this anymore and as a result of the BF and the bosses son I decide its a not a good time to make a sexual move on this girl. I also tell her that I have a gf but its on the rocks and im looking to split up with her(For pre selection reasons). So we spend the night just talking but I decide to tell her that I like her just to see her reaction as I basically had a little general idea she liked me. Nothing happens after like two hours of talking and I go back to my mates room.

The next morning I get a call from the girl who got my number off my friend asking me for another guys number as she needs to contact another friend of mine becuase I left his jumper in the room(He got drunk and got thrown out but left his jumper in the venue). So I tell her Ill text her it and do so but throw another neg in there saying she better not bully him for being drunk and thrown out(I called her a bully for throwing negs at me in the office). An since this first text for the whole week we was texting 24 hours a day (300 messages according to my inbox ). Now in these texts there was a lot of flirting i.e her asking if i meant what I said and her thinking im cute etc. So the week passes by and towards the end of the week I get a message telling me her bf has dumped her. Now im over the moon at this point and do some comfort building and sympathise with her but try to keep it to a minimum as I dont want to end up as a friend. In this same weekend I split up with my 'gf' as well and she is asking me how it went, did my 'gf' cry etc. The next day we are still texting and arrange some how I end up meeting her and her friend at a shopping place. We spend the day just chilling and talking and during this meet up and conversation afterwards I found out now she really likes me and her friend also stated this too me. So we organise to go for lunch on the first monday at work.

Monday morning I get a message telling me she doesnt feel too well and doesnt feel like eating mcdonalds. So come lunch time I just leave the building and go do my thing and get lunch at my cousins place. I then get a text messaging asking where I am and that she misses me at lunch. The rest of the week she takes 3 days off due to illness and in which we still texting and talking on the phone. Loads of banter and flirting and decide to have lunch together on friday. During this time she buys me a Kung Fu Panda DVD (A film I told her I want to see as I do Kung Fu) which I thought was sweet of her. So we have lunch and everything is great, talking a bit of kino but no kiss or anything. The next day (yesterday) we was meant to go shopping together, but last minute she tells me her friend is feeling down about personal problems and is it ok if she comes along as well. Now im thinking this is the second time her friend is going to be there when we meet up and it puts me off so I tell her Im not going to go as if she has persoanl problems what am I going to do there while they talk about and just tell her to go with her mate who needs her. An from this there was a slight awkardness which has slightly dissapeared but now the text messages have slowed down drastically. I get the delayed reply but used to get instant replies. Now my question here is how do I work it from here, my personal oppinion is too cool off a bit as Im getting the feeling that I have some how kinda put her off a bit as there is no talk of organising another meet up. So do I just chill on the text messages, keep it to a minimum and go to work and just be me and do my own thing and pay her no attention to get her interest back up?

Any feedback on this long post is highly appreciated.

Damn Hasim. BTW are you actually middle eastern(just wondering)

Uhmmm sounds actually like the soft spot for her bosses son was a fucking joke just to see how you'd respond..unless you know for a fact that really went down. Its funny how women will throw down credentials on the spot showing their "playing field" so to speak, regardless if its true or not.

And did you really have a GF or did you make that up? She probably seen right through all your attempts right there when you were telling her this stuff if it was infact untrue.(mainly cause of how convenient it was that you became single just as she did )

Sounds like theres still some magic left as your just back at square 1 instead of where you were previously. If you can manage to get with her in person it'd be best if you finished what you started. IDK what you did prior but the times when you couldve sealed the deal sounded spot on(like at the party).

Yeah Im now starting to know where I screwed up. Shouldn't have said I had a gf as looking back on it, it does scream out fake. Just decided Im going to sit back now and let it go. She is has a lot of stuff going on in her personal life now and to me im thinking there is no point trying to start something up when she is so emotional really. Thanks for the post dude and yeah im from that part of the world, turkish to be exact.