I was interested in this woman but when I asked her out she said she "had plans" but perhaps next time. So I forgot about her and now she is actually approaching me and starting to hug other guys in front of me and things like that. I think shes trying to make me jealous, but I just dont get why, since I already asked her out once and she said she was busy.

Anyway, how should I react when she hugs other guys in front of me? Act like I didnt see it, or that it bothers me? And should I bother asking her out again? Or wait until she comes to me since I already asked once?

How do I play this one? I don't want to look like a desperate chump with no dignity, yet I keep thinking mabye I should ask 1 more time. What would you do?

Just because she gives you IOI's it doesnt mean she likes you. They could be friendly IOI's and its YOUR responsibility to distinguish whether they are friendly or more so. So she could just be being nice as a friend, and then you go and ask her on a date. In which case shes not aiming to make you jealous, but as you notice it so much it looks like shes doing that unintentionally lol. Or she could like you, its just that you may not have established enough comfort to get her on a date - or shes keeping you on your toes. Which would explain the attempted jealousy tactic.
How do you deal with an attempted jealousy tactic like this? Reverse the roles. Instead of her thinking that by doing what shes doing your getting jealous, make her think that your thinking that that behaviour of hugging other guys actually makes you happy. For example -
When you see a guy that she starts hugging - ''Oh dude thank god for that - i never thought she was going to leave me alone''. - or - before she hugs him ''I will pay you 100 to take this girl off my hands right now dude I swear.''

She is going to pick up on the fact that you dont care. So why would she bother with this tactic again? Just keep your eye out for other games

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This is what happened. She prolly was interested, but it looks like you should her you liked her a little too soon. Then when you walked away from her you DHVed yourself by showing you didnt really care and it wasnt worth your time thats why she came back to talk to you again.

second dont show your jealous or it bothers you. being emotionally reactive is very low value to a woman.

also did you get her phone number? its easier to just get her number, do text game, then "hang out" rather than flat out asking her out.

What the heck is "friendly IOI's"? Isn't that an oxymoron? To me, that would mean they are "not" IOI's, LOL. As far as "comfort" level...wow I'm so sick of hearing that already. How freakin' "comfortable" do you have to make them to go out for a dam drink? What am I, Ted Bundy or something? Am I training a dog, or trying to get a date? If I have to do that much coddling just to get them to get a cup of coffee what kind of work do I have to put in to get them into bed? Ugh, it's hopeless. I would think if they are that uncomfy around me they probably are just not that interested to begin with.

It's funny how if you have money 99% of the stuff of this site is rendered useless. Just advise everyone to get rich. Easiest way to a womans pants, then you can act like an "AFC" until you're blue in the face and still get all the babes you want. I'm so tired of this crap.

I waited 5 months to ask her out LOL. How long should I have waited? If anything I probably waited TOO long . What does "DHVed" mean by the way? I'm still new at this :p, I assume it's a good thing? Anyway I didn't show any reaction when she hugged that dude in front of me, she just looked at me after and said "see you later, Sam". I just gave a sly smile and never brought it up after. Mabye it was a test or something. I think I passed OK. By the way I work in an office with this girl.

As far as texting goes doesnt seem like a very manly thing to do, but mabye I'm not hip to the times. Seems about the same as writing her a note though. I dont know.