Okay here is the dilly:

I met this girl on this latino online networking site. got her number...we texted back and forth for a few weeks. I like her, even more than I wish I did.

Day 1) We met at barnes and nobles. had a nice time, and , though she is very hot, she is not stuck up and stuff. after spending a whopping $3.30, I tried to k-close her at the end of the night. We did some hugging and being close, and she let me kiss her on the cheek, but she refused to kiss me cause it was out first date. Fair enough

usually I dont call back girls I dont k-close on the first date, but I like this one. we texted for a few days. then, a week later

Day 8) Took her to an expensive Italian restaurant, to make up for our very cheap firs date. Reservations, flowers, everything to make her feel like a special candidate (I always fool with her that she is merely a candidate, which is, well, pretty true, since I go on a lot of dates; but I like her most)

After the restaurant we parked in a nearby park. K-close. I know she likes me. Took her home.

Day 9) texting back her forth. I tend to get swept away by my feelings (and I fight that). I sent her a text that said something like "I have a crazy idea." next text: "why don't you come live with me. [she is unemployed so I said] you can go back and finish school, I'll pay the bills. Just help with the cooking and cleaning." She replied "oh wow. well lets get to know each other a little more and I'll take a raincheck on your offer."

Day 11) A sunday. I picked her up and we went for a drive, and we found a cozy spot by the water. By this point we are clearly in the comfort stage. She's asking me tons of questions about my life, and I am telling her my story and letting her see the real me. At one point she asks me about all the dates I go on (I drop little hints about this here and there). I tell I have a few girls that I text and call. (I read somewhere that you should let a girl bring up "becoming a couple" and one of the ways girls do it is about asking about dating other people). I ask her if she is concerned about the girls I date and stuff. She denies it. She asks me how I feel about her. At this point I (perhaps unwisely) confess that I'd put all those other girls away to date her exclusively. She confesses she likes me too but that she needs more time.

Day 12) We're texting. I get drunk, and I text her telling her that I know I want her to be my woman (bad move I think). She says its sweet but she needs more time.

Day 13) its my day off, and i text her telling her so. Oh, also, in the morning i wake up kinda horny so I text her saying "Hey mosy girls I meet these days are shaven down there. I'm craving a girl who lets it grow out." She says she is kinda busy. I'm thinking I'm about due to freeze her out or something. So I make myself occupied by calling up this girl I know who likes to give blowjobs. I pick her up and bring her to my place. BJ is given. On the way home from dropping this other chick off, just when I'm thinking I need to leave hb9 alone for a few days, she texts me saying "So does this mean that you don't go down on a women?" I text her back saying "Baby, I invented it." That gets a good laugh out of her.

So this is where I'm at. Don't know my next move..whether to push or pull or freeze out or do something. The danger here is that she knows she has me where she wants me...its very open that I like her alot. I know she likes me to.

But I dont want to botch this up.

Any advice on how to keep myself interesting and what not?

Oh also, I'm struggling with a deep sense of One-itus for this girl. She fits all my criteria for a girlfriend...

but I'm trying to think in terms of abundance and its damn hard. Hard to think of all these other girls out there

I'm no pro, more of a serial lurker on these boards, but I've decided of late to put my two cents into a few things.

In my opinion you need to switch this back on her, drop some negs, tease her, get her chasing you.

I have the same problem when I get one-itus. When you actually care about a girl you forget all the rules that you've tried and tested and proven to work. You start chasing.

Stop chasing, re-evaluate your routine, make her chase you.

thanks. I've got to figure out how to do that.

ok update:

day 13) we were texting heavily. again I admitted to much about my intentions with her (I keep getting swept up in the moment). she likes all the attentions but told me to be careful cause I dont want to scare her off. sort of a warning to me being too aggressive/clingy. she threw me a big kiss good night though

day 14) (today) I'm choosing to freeze her out today, to let the ground lay fallow a bit.

I need a scheme to turn the tables some...to turn me back into the prize to be won. Can't think of anything though.

You just need to keep pushing and she will finally crack obviously it will just take a bit of time but she's definitely into you

thanks for the encouragement man!

hey are you the dude with the somewhat strange (yet effective) very direct game? or are you the guy who introduced this forum to "The Divorce Game" a few months back?

Neg to flip it, DHV to increase your attractiveness.

Be aware of what you're saying at all times, don't tell her your intentions anymore. You need her to be unsure in order to twist it around.

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