what the title said. its either i dont dance, or i look like a fool. i dont have time to take lessons. any suggestions?

Get a girl to teach you.. That's what I did cuz I wasn't a great dancer. but it will build Kino and teaches you.. two birds with one stone

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really, i think it's all about moving to the beat of the music for begginers whether it be sitting down and practicing it or standing up...whenever you have time and music....and/or you can learn certain moves or what not to begin......just like PU'ing. Learn a few techniques/routines...then make it your own....

you can either learn cool smooth moves or naughty playful moves or wacky outrageous moves...whatever fits your personality better......

i also think working on certain physical activities to improve coordination so that your in total control of your body parts in relation to eachother and in relation to others.....

...but eventually, you'll want to have a female partner.

When all else has been tried and you still don't seem to "have it down" yet....then just get lessons. the internet contains vast knowledge on how to get down.....

....above all else ....some booz and an open mind to have fun and make a fool out of youself goes a long way....just like opening girls for the first time....failure doesn't exist...only exprience to be gained.

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The hotter they are, the harder they fall....for me.

I was very scared to dance too, but I think of it this way now:

If you sit back and look, dancing is kind of silly. It's a bunch of people in a huge crowd making wierd movements to the beat of a song. The main reason I was scared to dance was because I thought people were all watching me and I would look awkward. But the fact is, everyone is doing the same thing as you, so there's nothing to worry about it, plus it's pretty fun once you get into it.

I don't know where you dance, but a lot of the clubs I go to are usually hip-hop music which involves grinding, the simplest form of dancing. Let her do the work and make it sexy, grab her hands, turn her around so she's facing you and place her hands around your neck, they melt when you do that.

cool cool. all very great tips!

Like it was said before every club your going to is going to be playing hip/hop or techno. Basically in both types of music remember that the sound comming out of the subwoofer is your beat. You can almost ignore all of the other music (at least for now if your learning). Just find that basic beat and two step to it.

If you can GRIND!!!! you don't do anything, as long as your coordinated some what u just follow.

Women relate dancing to sex. You know that?
Be confident. Who cares if your bad at dancing? Maintain frame, be confident and its fine.
I could never dance, i still cant. I do it confidently, i dont care if i look an idiot. You know when people make circles in a dance crowd and put one person in the middle on their own to dance? Thats social assesment lol, I learnt the running man for that . Works with any fast music and people love it.

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Ahh its easy once you get into it.. we were all at this point some time.

The easiest way to learn its to watch what the other guys do and copy someone who you think looks really good.

when grinding with a girl thats easy enough. Two strict rules, if you are behind her one hand should be on the waist and the other should be on her tummy, then as you get more confident more it down to her leg. etc. then if your facing her one hand on waist again and one hand right in the middle of the back. not too low not too high. then take her arms and put them round your shoulders and round the back of your head. which = 1 easy make out if you can do this haha.

hope this helps

confidence is by far the best advice. You can do (or not do) whatever the hell you want. Be fearless out there. Bust out disco (seriously) during some 2 step song. As long as you look like King Shit while doing it the girls will either see you as funny and willing to have a good time or someone they'll try to copy (which always leads to good negs later).

You dont have to look like a professional dancer to get out on the floor. Most of the time, when a girl wants to dance with a guy, its not for the guys benefit, but hers. True, some women do associate dancing with sex, but it wont make or break you either. By going out on the floor and dancing, even if you suck at it, you're giving her a chance to do what she wants to do and have fun doing it. Which then adds you in to the equation of her having fun. So really, whether you're any good at dancing or not, you still up your chances alot by just doing it. After dancing a few times, you tend to get somewhat better at it anyways, and it is great fun. And lets not forget, it's probably the cheapest and best kino out there!

There's nothing wrong with looking like a fool. The comfort zone is enemy territory. Therefore, YOU need to get your ass onto the dance floor.

Express yourself fully with your body. Even though some guys huddled up by the bar with their drinks held to their chests will point and laugh at you, you'll still be having a great time and eventually turning girls on.

If you suck at dancing, you learn to dance on a dance floor. If you need to bulk up, you learn to lift weights in a gym. On the dance floor you're going to start off looking like an idiot. In the gym you're going to start off looking like a pussy as you lift a bar with no weights. Who fucking cares?

Get in the habit of showing the world everything that you are, both strengths and weaknesses, without exaggerating your strengths nor deliberately distracting attention away from your weaknesses. This is called dropping your ego. This is the only way anyone can actually improve at a significant rate.

chief...you just took me to a whole 'nother level my man. its just not about dancing i guess