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So I'm talking to a girl on IM. Now I know it's just IM and messages being sent can be misinterpretted. But this girl tells me 'You are different from other guys, but I don't know if it's a good thing or a bad thing.' And I told her that it's a good thing cuz I like to stand out. But she says 'Ok I won't burst your bubble'.
Hi BabyChaser, how's it going?
Many times when girls tell you lines such as "Your not like most guys " it's a good thing because they are saying " you stand out, and i like that. " However, she said " I dont know if it's a good or bad thing. "
Because she said that, do what I do when coming across this statement. I get self absorbed sometimes . .. so I get girls to talk about ME whenever I can
For example:
Her: You are different from most guys, and I dont know if that's a good or bad thing.
(in this case, get to the bottom of it by getting her to talk about me)
Me: Well , what about me is different?
In this case she will either say something good, bad, or indifferent.
It really doesn't matter, because you will be fine with whatever response she says.
Remember, whatever her response. Just dont "look" like you've lost your cool. the moment you feel weird, she'll feel weird. So don't feel weird about it
Now let's say you some how end up making this mistake again, let's say you told her exactly what you told her before:
"Her: you are different from other guys, but I don't know if it's a good thing or a bad thing.'
You: it's a good thing cuz I like to stand out.
Her: 'Ok I won't burst your bubble'.
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Ok, you can respond to this several ways. I can't really give you a definite answer because I don't know her personality. But I would play it safe by flipping it around on her, making her the bad guy by:
You: Than why are you telling me I am different? You totally set me up!
Her: What?
You: Your telling me things I like to hear, than your calling me names saying I have a big ego.
( You will now get into a little debate with her, which is fine . .. it will eventually lead you to conclude something like:
You: Wow, obviously a misunderstanding. I am sorry.
and she will agree and you both will move on.
BabyChaser, there isn't a "wrong or right" answer most of the time. All you can really do is give the best answer possible, hear what someone has to say and Respond to the best of your ability.
If you some how offend the other person, learn from the mistake and move on.
All the best,
TimmyD CharismaArts's Instructor