This girl (we'll call her thelma) works in a coffeeshop down the street from me, she's hot, single, very nice, and I like her. I went in there today and started engaging with other people in the shop first. A 2 year old, then a really fat and nice girl. and no doubt Thelma noticed. I teased Thelma a little and she was responsive. she was looking for the waterheater on the building and I helped her find it plus touched her arm. then I got curious and asked her about herself and she talked about herself for about thirty min's after which I said I had to go but would like to hear more about it another time. I didn't ask her name or her number, I froze up and just walked out.

My question is how could I improve from what I wrote and what are some Ideas of what to do next.

My first instinct is to go and ask her to go sailing with me (she really likes sailing) and then making it like a casual/fun date?


Thanks guys, I am learning a lot, today a cute girl i just met threw her arms around me!!! That's never happened to me before

If you go sailing with her, go with a group of YOUR friends, this ups your value. If you go on a "date," you come across chumpish. With this being said, it really depends on the girl, but if shes hot, she is probably used to guys kissing her ass and supplicating her with what they think she wants. She doesn't want someone who is going to kiss her ass and cater to her whims. She wants to be apart of whats going on, not the center of whats going on. Focus on yourself and have her tag along. This shows you have a strong frame and that you know what you want. And thats attractive.

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Swoop

Swoop I must respectfully disagree. In my case, the girl was a bartender, and I knew she liked me right from the start. I was in there getting breakfast, solo, waiting to get picked up to go to a family party. So I had a good hour to talk to her. I spoke about my night before that, and how I had been out with like 10 Texans who I didnt even know for dinner, because I hit it off with one of their co-workers a few days before in a bar dancing.

So anyway, back to the point. I was sitting there eating breakfast, and I picked up the local nightlife newspaper and saw a restaurant suggestion. It was cool, it was a Thai fusion place, I first proposed a double date, since my friend was diggin the other bartender. She couldn't go. I said, well we still could. girl said yes. After dinner, we got a couple drinks, went and sat in the local park and watched a movie.

I got laid that night.

Do what you think is right my man.

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"I'm like a dog chasing a car; if I ever caught it I don't think I'd know what to do with it" - Heath Ledger as The Joker

Thanks for being respectful This is why^ I said that. I know it can be done of course, just depends on the girl and the level of skill/confidence. Homie sounds like hes doing ok. Could work out good going date style. He'll have to let us know how its goes!

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(I don't want to hijack, but could someone PM me and tell me how to do the proper quoting, or point me where to look?? I feel like a pretty big idiot I can't figure it out or find where to learn.)

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Swoop

Swoop, I think your intuition is right, I tend to be way too giving to women and it's hard for me to even see it until someone points it out. Bringing her to an event with some friends feels much more appropriate for building attraction.

And Bronco I also believe in the 1on1 but the truth is that I am way more comfortable around a group than 1on1, that is until I have built some report with her.

Either can work. Lots of money doesn't always equal good date, however isolation and rapport are the key to getting her in bed eventually. The problem with getting laid on the first date is that she'll have a lot of remorse, luckily I was smart enough to set up a movie on the first date. That way, we had a nice, relaxing 2nd date, didn't push it, everything was good.

Going out with your friends is cool and I'm actually bringing a girl out tomorrow night with friends. It absolutely raises your value. Your selection in friends says a lot about you. Just make sure you get her alone when it feels right and hopefully that'll be soon, since you said the one girl threw her arms around you, you sound like you're doing well! Remember, a date is what a man would do. Good luck

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"I'm like a dog chasing a car; if I ever caught it I don't think I'd know what to do with it" - Heath Ledger as The Joker