| The story... I got to know a HB7 girl through the salsa scene. She is a lovely and experienced dancer. She joined a group of us for a weekend away to attend a salsa congress. She is from Greece, and came to the United Kingdom, 10 months ago, to join a company as a practising general dentist (on a low pay and temporary contract). I recognised that she was an inexperienced traveller and because she stayed at a different hotel, I elected that we exchanged telephone numbers in case she needed to make contact during her stay. I didn't want her to feel that she was on her own. This worked out very well.
Back home, we decided to keep in touch and arrange a coffee date. On Friday, I left a voice mail message asking if she would like to go for coffee and conversation during the weekend. Later that day, she texted back to say that was 'still in hospital and trying to get home' and that she would later call when she gets home. It was only until the next day that she texted, apologising for not calling, as she was still in real pain after leaving the hospital. I called her back and got the full story behind her ordeal the day before. I said not to worry and that the coffee can wait until she feels better.
The next day, Sunday, she texted asking if I would like to keep her company that evening. I agreed. I turned up at her place and we got talking. We got to know each other better. She was resting her injured back. I did a light kino on her lower legs as they were resting on my lap. We enjoyed the conversation and each other company. The night ended with a big long hug and a k-close. We agreed and want to meet again. I then left for home.
I didn't sleep that night. As I went through the topics that was discussed, I began to wonder if we were right for each other.
1. She does not eat meat as she hates the smell of them. I love eating meat.
2. She is very nervous around animals. I work with animals.
3. Five years ago, she described herself as being a HB10, and then something happened. She gained some weight since. I didn't probe for further details as I could see it was uncomfortable for her to talk about it.
4. Back home in Greece, she was very ambitious. She had two dental practices, but sold one during the Greece economic crisis, 3 years ago. She still has one practice back home. Her father is a dentist too.
5. Now she is somewhat ambitious. She came to the United Kingdom, to gain dental experience here, hoping to secure a permanent role with better pay, prospect and work/life balance.
6. She would like to settle down with children. That is my plan too.
7. Her English language skills is generally okay, but not perfect...yet.
8. She lives alone in an okay apartment, and her social network is very small.
9. She likes that I am a professional, intelligent and a good dancer with good circle of salsa friends.
10. She doesn't do Facebook, and believes society is missing out on the value of having conversation. I may have swayed her decision, highlighting the benefit of having Facebook to help with increasing circle of friends and other salsa events, etc...
I am questioning myself, or perhaps I am overthinking the situation. Does she fits into my world and do I fits into her world. Can I do better than HB7? Should I agree to further dates knowing that I have doubts at this very early stage of dating. I hate for any awkward moments to happen at the social dance scene should I decide not to date with her. I have always been single, and very rarely ever gets 2nd dates. This could be my time...or not? Has anyone ever been in this similar dilemma and what did you do?
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