he guys,

so this is the story of my life, im not an ugly guy, girls like me but i always become friends..
im 115kg bodybuilder im 23 years old 1.85 not fat so picture it.

no i have a situation and i fucked it up, it like 1 year ago i went to a store and a very cute girl works there, so i must go to that store every day for my work and we just say hello and bye little talk nothing big but i liked here, she makes mistakes with work when she talkt to me and she was shy. after a while ze adds me on facebook we talk like 3 words and i got a date so i was really happy. then on the date i liked this to so mutch that i was nerves as hell, did not know what to say and we went for a drink and a movie. i thought a scary movie is good. then i can put my arm around here and you know the rest. that didnt go that well.... she hates scary movies en had het hands for her face the hole time and after that we went to her home to drop her off and nothing happend. i talk to here on SPAM but she respond late said she was sick etc. so that was over.

still needed to go to the store where she worked for my job and first she was quiet than after a while she talkt, and it was basicly back to where it was.. hello goodbye. then i got a girlfriend and she sees me with her and i came to that store with my girlfriend and i act normal i always act normal. i got that girlfriend for six months.

after the breakupp with that girl there as a few months nothing. so one day i go on snapchat and i see this girl so i add her and we reconeccted with some picture sending nothing mutch. then one day i must go to the hospital for churgery, and she sees it and start to really talk to me again on facebook, even send me a get better card and we talked for 4 weeks staight, things like when i get better we must hit the gym sometime (i tought like not a date but we will be together so there is no pressure) and she was good with that butt my progress of revalidation was until this day not over yet i need like 1 more week to recover.

tis is week 8 now so we had contact straight for like 4 weeks then 2 weeks nothing, she didnt respond on any pictures i sent on snapchat an fb so i was done with it and didnt sent anything anymore, i really dont like it when a girl dont respond.

after 2 weeks she starts likeing pictures on fb again, and she sents my a picture for her and somthing it like nothing one a meaningles picture, so i sent a picture back and she starts to talk to me again on SPAM, we talked, i asked a normal question and again she dont respond. a day later nothing and the day after that she start sending picture again with the snapchat, so i sent somthing back and she asked questions again and this goes on.

so i dont know what to do, i just wanttoget better and than go train with her but i askt that like 6 weeks ago and where not really talking its now just i dont know what to call it.

maby you can give me some advice to deal with this situation, i dont know if i need to give here more atantion because i wantto but se dont respond sometimes, but if i dont give here atention then i think se wants it. i dont want here to get in bed with me i really want to know here en do stuff with here.

i know she liked me in the beginning, otherwise whe wont date me but for now i dont know, we are not friends, where not strangers, where not lovers.

sorry guys for my bad english and thankyou for your time to read this and i hope you can help me a little bit in the right direction

greatz.

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get big or die trying.

So you've gone on one date with her in the last year... And you're not sure what's next.

You should be talking to 20 other women. Abundance.

This is one girl - and she's flaky as hell... Though I'll admit I may have misinterpreted some of this due to your English.

First of all - you need to just ask her out... Stop beating around the bush. Waste of time. She sounds semi-interested. You've built her up in your mind and created this topic about her on this forum because she's somewhat special and you don't want to fuck it up ----- ironically that's exactly why you're going to fuck it up.

Keep talking to this one. Ask her out. Push for more contact and escalate... But also get out there - approach. You should have 10 other girls like this one right now.

This is a PICKUP forum. Not a puppy love forum.

And that is what i hate about seduction.Is so two-faced it makes me wanna puke.
When you build attraction you have to badboy/jerk.No problem playing that role.But you also have to build comfort.Where you basicly have to shift your personality to nice guy mode.No problem playing that role neither.But i cant play both.I cant shift.It feels awkward.Two faced.
If i have to be the badboy/jerk then i wanna be that all the way and not suddenly switch to a nice guy persona.Its weird and i think the shifting from badboy to niceboy.Thats the part most guys struggle with.You need to combine both and balance it right.You have to be two faced.Rollercoaster.You have 2 keep shifting like a fucking race car.

And racing cars is tricky.