tried puttin this on rsd forums, got no help so ill try here.

ok, long story short... Just broke up with my gf, she had alot of anger issues, fought alot etc, i loved her but had to finally let her go for the sake of my sanity.
I'm finding it hard to adjust being single now, i used to have really good game, high confidence, barely any AA, really good vibe girls would be intrigued by.
Now my heads all over the place, i say the same things i used to but nothings working, i dont like night game anymore, my vibes all over the place. im working on affirmations and inner peace SPAM, any other tips? just feels like im getting worse each time i go out (single for 3 weeks btw, last time i broke up i pulled 3 chicks the month after, this time nothing)

2nd, I did meet a 9 one night, got her number went on date, personality wise shes very similar to my ex so i stopped esculating as it freaked me out, im still txting but fear i might of been friendzoned, i asked if shes keen to watch movies at mine when shes get back from cousins and she said yes, any tips on not getting freiendzoned ?
i usually get bf zoned not friendzoned.

3rd, i am a pt and i see hot chicks daily, any advice or game plan to set up dates with girls there, i have to hb9s booked nexxt week, one is exactly my type but dont want to get a bad rep, but she is so hot, not sure if shes single

4th got another number of a girl that used to serve me a supermarket and was always flirty and grabbed me at a club and we talked etc, my mate came up and told me her friend has a bf, so i grabbed her number and left. Anyway i txt her later in the week asking if she wants to meet for coffee, she said shes keen, hasnt mentioned bf yet

5th, also i get bad dancefloor approach axiety, my mate forces me to open them but the last two i opened i went too forceful and scared them, not sure how to get better, not a fan of df game but heaps of hot chicks like to dance, i just suck
Any tips on what i should do with all of these, yes im keeping busy lol

It sounds to me that you are a decent looking guy who girls get attracted to naturally, but being in a relationship
for so long got you out of the game.

You have a lot of questions, that are not really questions that you could answer, but are more questions that
have to do with how you feel inside.

For your first question about what's happening when you go out and you get
no results, I would recommend you do 2 things:

1) Get some friends who are single and going out meeting women. Hang out with them, and they
will naturally put you in that mentality of dating and being successful at it.

2) Get some help. Either get a coach to help you, or get somebody who knows his stuff to give you a leg up.

For the second question about getting friend zoned, the best way to not get friend zoned is to not
behave like a friend.

If you think about it, friends are mostly asexual, they aren't giving any sexual vibe.

So when you're with a girl, start teasing her on how she's trying to seduce you with how great
she looks. Accuse her of having a hidden agenda because she wore those sexy jeans.

So for example, she comes over to watch a movie, and she looks amazing. You say, "O man, I was
looking forward to hanging out with you, and you had to wear these jeans...I mean, I'm just a guy,
I can't resist that...you know what, I'm not talking to you anymore..."

And you turn your back to her.

Of course, you do this in a playful way, so she get's you're not totally serious.

In essence, if you don't want to be friend zoned, then make the kind of comments where you show that
you are a man with sexuality - and that you know how to express it in a cool and fun way.

Don't be afraid to say to her, while you're watching a movie, "You're so rude, you come by my house
and you don't even hug me while I'm watching a movie..."

I know, there's not much teasing in it, but it's cool to plainly show what you want sometimes.

Don't be afraid to behave like a man.

And also, if you don't want to be bf zoned, don't behave like a boyfriend to her as well. Don't act like
you're in a relationship when you're with her.

Escalate things to sex as soon as possible, make it clear that that's what you're in it for, and you can
later decide whether or not you want to have a relationship with her.

Here's a tip, women will ALWAYS hold back sex with a guy they consider boyfriend material. But they
will also ALWAYS be open for a relationship with a guy they just had sex.

3RD question about dating your clients.

Honestly, check with yourself is that what you want to do.
When you're with your clients, it's probably better to not show any signs or sexual interest, and just
allow the nature take it's course.

Girls will start asking you about you. You'll notice they'll try saying something like, "I bet your girlfriend
doesn't like you're working with girls all the time..." just to check if you have a girlfriend.

If you notice women giving you signs like this, then say something like, "You want to get some coffee or
something sometimes...?"

Be very easy on this, as you already have the status built up, and don't need to do that much. But the main point
don't make the first move.

And with the dance floor anxiety, I'm currently testing a technique that deals with Approach Anxiety. If
you want to be a part of my test group, you are warmly invited. Details in my signature.

Hope I was able to help you. And as I said, you seem like a guy who women are naturally
attracted to. So you probably don't need to do much, just get out of that relationship mentality.

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Fast forward to the present. I didn't have the Chinese girl as a Facebook friend until recently (I made myself a new FB account). Being the curious person I am I decided to friend request her, she added me within a minute. I then sent her a message of "hey! you're living in (place in the U.S. her FB profile says she lives in) now?", as her location status suggested she was living there. She answered "wow it's been a long time! But no I'm back in (her European college town) I'm afraid~" we then had a good fluffy conversation about our future academic plans and how we enjoyed our last year of college. Then she says "Are you visiting Europe again any time soon?" to which I reply "yes, maybe soon", she says "Hehehe well you should let me know once you're back! We could meet up again!" then she says she might be visiting the U.S. in a couple months. Then I say I could definitely use an excursion to (the general U.S. region she wants to visit). She then says "Hehehe that would be wonderful! " We left it at that, I haven't messaged her since.

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I concur my best friend is in a relationship and when I hang out with him even if we are around a bunch of girls I just don't feel that "mentality" to meet girls as Black Phantom put it. Vice versa, when I'm at a party with my single friends we usually push ourselves into that "mentality" without realizing it.
It's your life for this one but me personally I never dip the pen in company ink. Regardless of it's a girl in the same class, at a job or we live in the same building. Again use your discretion and think of what is more important to you, your rep as a PT or meeting up with a client for coffee.
Sounds like you're in your own head man, relax a little have some fun with being single. It's like a slump in baseball; you just gotta relax and go back to the basics. Women can sense it if you're trying too hard. From reading this post you seem like a decent guy whose got looks going for him, just don't focus so much on the women focus on having a good time.

Also maybe the things you used to say aren't working because you aren't the same person you were back then?

Finally, I see its been a while since this post. How are you doing now with everything???

-KingLeonidas