So I tested OKcupid some months ago and ended up talking to this one girl. She lives abroad, thousands of miles away and happens to have a "thing" for men of my nationality. So at the moment I am kinda representing that fantasy to her and things got sexual really fast. This girl also happens to be extremely hot, we're talking of a girl who has won some beauty contests in her past here. She lives in a major city and I have no idea of the men that she is actually used to date but if I'd have to guess I'd say athletes, wealthy businessmen and models etc. So I am facing some serious competition here.

Didn't think I'd have much to loose by just being very direct with her from the beginning. Didn't throw in any negs or stuff like that, but instead praised her looks and also her personality. Things heated up from there and I've had phonesex with her for couple of times and she has sent me some nudes. It's been on for 5 months now actually, and we've agreed right from the beginning on seeing other people as well as planning a meeting simultaneously. It seems I'd still have to keep her interested for 2-3 months before we're able to arrange a meeting.


In the beginning she was very into me but now has been colder for a while, like 3-4 weeks. She doesn't initiate conversation so often anymore and when she does she kind of disappears after a few sentences to somewhere. She is also at times leaving my messages unanswered in which case I wait for her to message something or start a new conversation after a few days.

I feel like I am running out ot tricks to keep her interested and would like to hear some thoughts or ideas?

This situation has really tested my abilities and I've had to stretch my imagination. I even went as far as trying to hypnotize her via phone on one occasion, when I heard she'd be really interested to give it a go. Should I do some NLP or how do I actually go on about learning to charm here again via sms etc? It's very challenging but I feel like it's been way too much things allready happening between us to not meet her at all.

Are you actually doing what you agreed and seeing other people? Or are you just wishing up ways to keep her interested?

Also, if you're so interested, why don't you just meet up? Do you want her attention online forever? Are you using her to fill a hole in your life? It seems like this is what you want. I can't think of a reason why I'd spend time "getting to know" someone thousands of miles away, and not make an effort to meet.

The more you go without cutting things off or meeting up, the longer you perpetuate the fantasy. She is a person, who you actually do not know, because you haven't met in person. She is a fantasy. If you are in love with a fantasy you are setting yourself up for failure. Set yourself up with success and actually meet up with her, or preferably other women.

For the time you've spent on her, you could've been out meeting women in person, and be so much more satisfied.

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Yeah bro, you definitely need to meet her.

The ENTIRE game is escalation. Leading from "Hi" to "fucking her BRAINHOLE BACK."

Lbs!

Seriously, dude. No chick wants to talk. EVERY chick wants you to be the man of her dreams who eventually screws her.

Dude, it's amazing that your creativity has kept attraction alive for so long despite being so far apart.

I lost the love of my life for us being long distance apart for like 3 months.

But dude, she is DESPERATE for kino.

Less talk now, more touch, brother.

Set it up with her to meet.

You go out there or bring her to you (better). But for the love of every starved vag on the planet GO BANG HER!!!

Otherwise, it's time to move on.