So met this girl few days ago from some mutual friends, we're int he same college , got her number and texted a bit , the first night we talked and asked if she wants to go clubbin' with me and some mutual friends and she said she can't ,and i said that Inevitable go out saturday and we agreed to meet today for a coffe , and today we had a little chat
Me: Hey Girl What's up
Her: Nothing, in bed a little
Her:You?
Me:Home a bit
Me:I see you like being lazy
Me:
Her: Yea a bit
Me: How about that coffe , should we go out at 6?

Now she haven't respond, and gone offline on facebook, she is a HB9 ,Should i call her or wtf? The message on facebook doesn't look like she saw it, but i'm most sure she did.

Okay. First off...The interaction.

You haven't grasped her attention. You're giving her the attention. You basically hit her with an "are you there" bait. You hit her up to see if she would respond, so that she'll have no excuse for not answering you. You are going in with the mindset of "this girl wants to avoid me, so I will trap her." You should be going in like "this bitch wants my dick. I want coffee."

Second. Intention.

Do you really want coffee? Are you making this abut who you will have coffee with? Or are you making it about HER. You could really just have her over your place or meet her ANYWHERE.

Third. Your Plan

This should honestly be first. You should have your plan planned out completely before making it, or during the process of making it. Flakes happen so much because the plan is up in the air. She isn't flaking on you. You just never had a plan. It's called a date for a reason. There is a date. There is a time. Without a date, time, and a place, there is no plan. Actually make a plan when you make a plan.

Four. Call

A girl is straight up not worth your time to be texting back and forth constantly. It's distracting from productive life. Who honestly needs to have text conversation in the back of their minds while at work, or keeping up at home, or at the gym, or at church, or at school, or out with your friends?

Whatever is on your mind; whatever you are thinking of and whatever insecurity you have with this one situation with any girl can be solved by calling. If she's not interested she's not calling back. If she's not interested she's not picking up the phone and answering. If she's not interested she'll tell you no, or give you some excuse about why she can't make it.

Start throwing the ball in THEIR court and moving on with your fucking life, not sweating the details of the ONE NEW GIRL, when you could be going out meeting new ones.

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Hi man,

First off, good job on scoring a shot with an HB9. Unfortunately, this is not the way to set up a date.

She surely read your message and told herself: “I really can’t be bothered”. Do NOT call her, that will put the nail in the coffin. The best you can do at this point is say something like “nevermind “ and let the whole thing fade away without losing face.

What to do next time: Remember that girls are emotional creatures. Their decisions are based on moods that come and go, not rational plans they made in advance. She might have wanted to meet you for coffee when talking to you in person, but laying in bed all she wants to do is chill out.

Start off light and gradually work her back up to a point where she is willing to meet you. That means not asking questions like “whats up” “should we meet at 6h” . Just say “hey” and start dropping funny comments like callback humour or a continuation of the last conversation (to get her back in that state). Eventually, start asking about her plans for the day, to judge the feasibility or the invite. Then say something like “There this cool new coffee place I really want to try out” . If you’ve warmed her up enough, she should bite and say its a good idea. Either way, its a low pressure suggestion that doesn’t sink your value if she’s not in the mood or (worse) refuses to answer.

You’ll get her next time man!

For very specific tips on texting and setting up dates, check out my free blog: Tinder Advisor

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Do NOT call her? Seriously? What kind of pussy shit is that? Seriously, you don't have options if you have to sway someone into dating you. They should be excited as fuck about spending precious time with you. It should take no convincing. A simple call, and a fucking next.

ITS THE POWER OF NEXT. IF YOU DON'T HAVE IT YOU HAVE NOTHING.

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Great advice!... Just burn all your chances with the quality girls by overwhelming them with some aggressive game.

Then settle for the girls left over.

All hail the power of NEXT !

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Quality girls won't waste your time. Quality girls can make decisions and hold to them.

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