So I'm a 16 year old kid, had a grea conversaton with a beauiful girl the other day at the pool, but I found that mid conversation I chocked. Now I know what I did wrong in that sitchuation. She was 17, teenagers like older men. Also I didn't have much to talk about that wasn't lame, didn't expect along chat or for me to bring her back to where only I was. So I didn't have a script or anything ready, But I also didn't build rapport, nor attraction, any help on how?

-Lafayette

So you want tips on how to build rapport and attraction? But that's a huge topic that is, say, 50% of game (a number I took out of thin air). So I don't believe anyone can give you any quick and dirty tips. You need to go down the long road and learn everything there is about game.

The most normal and successful way of "playing the game" is to start with rapport and bother about attraction later, if you find yourself interested in the girl. However, at your age, all it takes to be interested in a girl is the fact she is a girl. A man with more life experience would be more cynical and not jumping on every opportunity to sleep with a girl. And that is the thing. The reason why girls like older men. It isn't because of their age as a number (which would be equivalent to the number of wrinkles in their face), but because of the life experience and the attitude that follows with it - experience in how to treat girls and play it right. In short, older men knows their game.

So, to get you started, how do you build rapport? You could experiment with an NLP technique called "pacing and leading". That will give you a basic understanding of things. It will hopefully make you understand what kind of girl is the right "type" for you (the ones who have a body language, spoken language, and way of being that matches your own). The others won't really click. But this will take time (months or years) to figure out completely. When you know your rapport building, you will be able to choose girls more carefully, and realize that neither do you have a chance with the "wrong type", nor do you want one. You will find the wrong girls unattractive.

And one last quick and dirty tip on how to build attraction: Don't even try. The more you are into pickup, the more you try, the more needy you will become (and your agenda will be obvious), the less attractive you will become. So stop trying. Focus on building rapport and having a conversation, and don't expect anything. You can as well tell yourself that you won't get laid until you get 30 and accept that. Because if you do, you have to focus on the things that matters in your interaction with girls, and the results will come sooner than you think.

Good luck!

Amazing advice buddy thanks, i think it might take afew months i try and go out every day and talk to women. I've already had sex so i'd say im fairly okay with women but today as i went out to a mall with a couple of friends. I wanted to give a try at the way tyler, OWEN goes about it. i like to see him work but also he is in a club which has a more sexual feel to it so i like how he talks, just i want to apply it to day time, i will do what you said and focus on the conversation, openers idc but today i did have a rough day, only talked to one girl saw a cute girl look at me but i didnt approach because she was far, never been so mad about something before. what could help me just GO you know? everybody has anxiety but i wasn't nervous to talk to her i just didnt wanna make my way there, sounds lazy probably it but i still need to work on the little things with opening i feel. Anyways thanks for the advice buddy big help.

-Lafayette

You already got all the advice you needed. i just wanted to congratulate you for starting the game right in time.