Over the last 7 months, a VERY attractive off-and-on female has invited me over to either "cuddle" or "bang" her. It happens maybe once every month or two, interspersed among weekly text conversation. She sends workout and underwear pictures that I don't ask for. She once sent a "Would this work for a booty call?" question followed by a picture of her boob out and her underwear almost pulled down.

Last weekend, I almost went over just to "hang out", but had a better option, so I bailed. She texted me later on in the night. I mentioned that I was extremely horny. She replied "That sucks." The conversation moved on, and she continued to talk about how her night consisted of eating pizza and watching TV. I jokingly called her a pig and a jerk (for cheating on her diet.)

In the morning, I get a text:

"Actually, you are the jerk. You think this is free dick parking."

me: What? When the fuck did I mention anything about sex?
her: Whatever bro
me: If I wanted to bang, I would have just come over
her: Ok
me: You owe me an apology
her: You owe me a diet program
her: I look really skinny in this mirror
(then sends me a picture of herself in a dress in the mirror?!)

At this point I cut her off.

Next day, I get a Snapchat from her of a an old photo of us hanging out in a group.

I still haven't responded.

What in the heck is she trying to do, here? I didn't respond to either picture. Should I press the issue, or let her pretend to lump me in the 'creepy guy' category, even though she is the one making all the moves?

I'm about 75% sure that shes worried about looking like a slut, and she was testing you. You passed the past, and she felt a little stupid but she was too proud to say sorry, so instead she tried to just change the subject. Get another opinion, but I'd say it's that.

As long as you're not making her think it's exclusive, then you're doing nothing wrong. Hang out, have fun, hook up. DON'T lead her on.

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Thanks for the insight, man.

Is there any ideal play after having given her the cold shoulder for 5 days? Should I just start chatting like nothing happened? Or, should I wait for her to crack?

I suppose you could initiate something... there's nothing wrong with calling her once a week to set a date. You could even text her "Hello you I was thinking about you earlier. When are you free to get together? We need a catch up" or something.

Don't worry about who "cracks" etc. The trick isn't to be cold and ignoring, it's just to make sure you've always got plenty of things going on in your life, so that you're naturally busy, rather than playing games to manipulate her. Don't get nasty with women when they test you, because ALL women will test you constantly. They're just playing, trying to see what you're made of

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She's pregnant and her hormones are making her crazy.

She's actually not putting you in no "creepy guy" category, you are looking at yourself
as a creepy guy in the first place.

Saying to a girl "I'm so horny", even if you slept with her in the past is not a
good idea. There's something about a horny guy that just turns women off - as
opposed to us guys, that get turned on by a horny girl.

What you're dealing here is a woman, an emotional woman. And emotional women just
do stuff like that. They say something and one moment later they change their mind
and don't care about what they said anymore.

But what you're doing is you're taking what she said and you want to create
a debate with a power point presentation to make your point...when it actually
doesn't matter.

Next time, don't send messages like I'm horny. If you are, send her a message that is
a bit more indirect, like "You up for coffee?" or, "I can just feel you're thinking of me"

The point being is that keep that frame all the time, and don't give a girl the opportunity
to change that frame on you.

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It happens when you turn a chick down for a booty call. Booty calls are 2 way streets. If you're Irby, you hit her up. If she's horny, she hits you up. If you don't respond when she's horny, she'll feel like a slut and not appreciated. Even if more than just a booty call, she'll feel like that's all it is because that's what your behavior is showing. Your messages were really reactive. Aside from yhat, she's not in control of the frame. Neither of you really are. She's insecure about your statement, but that also makes her want your acceptance even more.

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This was likely the issue in my view. She sends the pic of her in a dress, talking about being skinny, diets, etc. If there is anything they care about it's how they believe the men they desire view them, lighthearted joking around or not. O well lesson learned.