Here is a problem that has been recently cropping up for me. This (at least in my case) applies to daygame only.

I go out and if successful get one or multiple numbers after suggesting we meet up for a drink but actually I might be busy the next couple of days and the earliest I can meet them is say in 4 or 5 days.

Normally I think it is preferable for me to text the girl within 2 days of meeting her - I've picked that up based on some posts here and it seems to work fine.

However my texting consists of like maybe 1 to 3 initial exchanges and then I set up the date because I don't want to be wasting time texting plus I subscribe to the theory that while texting won't make a girl go out with you if she doesn't want to already, you might write something she will misinterpret because she doesn't see your face/emotions/etc. as opposed to when you flirt/joke during the actual date.

At the same time I think it's pointless and needy-looking to be setting up dates precisely more than 2 days ahead.

So my current solution to this is: Say I got her number on Sunday, on Monday or Tuesday I will text her a bit and then agree the day, but not time and place, and probably on the day will text her when and where to come. Any suggestions for doing something better/does this matter much?

Hey buddy, good questions there!

Take the 'game' out of your story and think of it logically. Game tends to confuse everyone and they overplay and overthink things.

You meet a girl during the day. Rapport isn't that high as most day game interactions are quite short. Think of her as a warm lead. If you wait 2 days to contact her, that lead is cooling off. Forget the BS about being too eager, because if the chick digs you it doesn't matter. I'll usually text a day game girl THE SAME DAY or worst case the next day. I'll make sure that first text is fun, and makes her smile. Would you take a sales lead from me who's interested to buy, and wait 2 days to call them so you don't sound too eager? Or would you strike while the buying temperature is high? The inner assumption there is that your product isn't good enough to offer her straight away.

So start contacting sooner, but make it fun. Boring texts are useless at all times.

I'm not sure why it's pointless or needy-looking to set up exact times more than 2 days ahead of time. I consider myself a high value, busy man with a lot of important things to do. My life is scheduled weeks in advance. So if I'm setting up a date, I'm locking in an exact time BECAUSE my time is valuable. But also, open-ended appointments are considered easier to break. If you tell me 'let's catch up on tuesday sometime' but never lock in a time, I'm very likely to over-ride your appointment with something else since the vagueness tells me that you aren't that serious. You should definitely be locking in firm times.

The other part you need to consider is the limited texts. You might hate flaky girls, but girls suffer more with flaky guys. So if you line up a date for 6 days away, then don't talk to her for 6 days, you just assume she'll show up? Or keep it free? It's unlikely. She is unlikely to trust you to actually be a man of your word, because most guys aren't.

SO...

If you meet a girl on a sunday day. You next her something funny that afternoon, tease her in a text. DONT do the boring 'was nice to meet you lets catch up soon'.

Monday/tuesday you tell her when you want to meet her and line up a date. (but let's assume you aren't free until the following weekend to meet for a coffee date on saturday)

Then wed/thurs, you might send her the first line of a joke "what has 48 balls and likes to screw old ladies?" She asks "what?" You reply "BINGO!" Then you can leave it at that.

Then Friday, text her to ask her if you can meet 15 minutes later the next day. Essentially reminding her about the date without being needy.

That is a far more solid strategy for daygame texting.

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Thanks for this, will give it a shot. I did some experiments already on this and it does seem to be the case that if I am intending to meet the girl say 5 days after we meet I do have to text her at the latest by the next day and send a bit of jokes or something back and forth at least every other day.

I guess once I make some routine like stuff with your bingo joke I will be able to cut down on the time this requires.