Something that has always boggled my mind. Mabey I do it subconsciousy but how do you do it?

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i think the way you think has a lot to do with it. i would say you have two choice to be a totally dick or a nice person. which would you choose? be a nice person right? So have this thought in mind when you meet everyone and be friendly to all of them or you can be scare and ignore them and they might think ur stuck up or rude. people love attention why not give it to them? your doing them a favor and in return they would thank you. if they dont they are not worth your time any ways.

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Talk to her like she's one of your guy friends and ask her deep questions like "is there more to you?", " If a tree falls in the forest and there's no one around, would it make a sound...?" just get her to open up to you more than she would to any other stranger

Build rapport.. How to do that?
1. Watch their body language and try to do the same.
2. Mimic their tonality.
3. See how they breathe and try to breathe at the same rate and same time.
4. Listen how slowly or fast they are talking.. Do the same..


Don't be obvious while trying to do it or else they will feel like you are doing it on purpose and they will get annoyed..
Good luck

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rapport is not the same as comfort. and you should already have rapport with somebody by the time you are talking for a minute or so. and watch out with all this nlp stuff, it can be creepy if not done correctly. most people do not do it correctly.

"comfort" is just a fancy word for, BONDING.

this is the point when you bond with her on a deeper level. you find out what her beleifs are, what her goals and dreams are, where she's from, etc. and vice-versa

when you do this, find common threads and interests. evoke emotional responses. she is supposed to get comfortable with being in a sexual situation with you.

make sure that she's attracted to you before you start asking and telling her these things.

before this, you should be teasing, disqualifying, push-pull and attracting her. then you qualify her. when building comfort, tone these down, but continue doing so through the whole interaction.