Background: I dated this girl for 1 year, about 6 or 7 years ago. We don't really have many friends in common. After we broke up for a year I kind of toyed with the idea of getting back together with her (We went on 2 dates or something) and I stopped calling her and she was pissed. (I know I didn't handle the situation well). I am recently divorced and she knows this.

Recently: I ran into her in a yogurt place. We chatted plesantly and she msged me after on facebook. Saying it was good to see me, yada yada. We said we should go for breakfast and catch up. We did, and then we went once more for breakfast a week later. There was no kissing or affection other than a hug goodbye.

She started contact both times and it has been 2 weeks since I last saw her. She send me a text tonight asking me "whats up and how are things going?" We text back and forth a few times.

The Challenege: I see her on a few dating sites and I know she has pretty specific criteria (which I meet) for dating men. How do I test the waters of asking her to be a FB without messing this up if she isn't interested. Do I just invite her over for a movie? I don't want anything more from this girl other than to hang out every now and then and mess around.


What my strategy?

Dude I was in as similar situation with an ex of mine - we went out for 3 years during university. To be honest, friends with benefits with an ex is never going to end well - saying is as a fellow PUA enthusiast - but I wouldn't do it mate; you'll just end up making it harder for the both of you

At some point in a dude's life one has to grow a pair and start making adult decisions and taking on responsibility. Called being a man, in my opinion.

My suggestion is to make a decision and stick with it. If you wanna date this girl for a little longer and see if there is a potential, then do it. Otherwise move out of the way. There are plenty of women around, and if you don't feel passionate enough about this one, then find another one. If you'll casually have sex with her every now and again it will make you weak and not work that heard on meeting new women, even though you're giving yourself a promise that you will. This will last until you, again, will decide to break up with her, wasting a lot of time and energy for both of you. Which is more then likely to happen.

Aren't you at a place where people discuss how to meet new and interesting women anyway?

This dude wants his ex as an FB and if thats what he wants there is nothing wrong with that...

This is my opinion on HOW TO GO ABOUT IT based on my exp of how i did it.

Ex or not, run it the way you would run any other girl...
Sounds like its going well so far, just invite her over for din/movie at your place and sleep with her.
getting a FB is about you being strong in your boundaries and be prepared to loose her.

I dont ask girls to be FB. You run your magic sleep with them, and continue to do that and never ask her out, she will pick up on the vibe that you together but not serious.
When she starts pushing for it to get serious, i usually just tell them that im enjoying her but i dont like putting labels on things. And i usually tell them 'ur my number 1 girl'. just never intro her to 'number 2' lol

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