I have noticed many girls (particularly the beautiful ones) are attracted to the asshole-like behavior (not asshole, but more like not the nice guy). When I use "active disinterest," I don't really act like an asshole, but I do tease, do what I want to do rather than what she wants, disagree frequently, make myself unavailable a lot, etc. My question is...do I have to continue this "alpha don't give a crap act" even AFTER attraction and comfort? Or once I have both attraction and comfort is it ok to be the "nice guy." I'm asking because I am genuinely a nice guy and that is just my personality.

For example:
Girl: I really hate sports and I've been waiting for so long to watch (something girly) do you mind if we put this on for a little bit?
Me: If I am building attraction and comfort, I'd be all alpha and say something like... how you gonna tell me what to watch in my own house? (in a funny/cocky way)
But really I don't mind if she puts on something she wants to watch for a little bit. Is something like this OK once you have attraction and comfort? Don't get me wrong I never let girls take advantage of me nor play me attraction or not, but I generally do not mind doing favors for friends and girls I like.

Again, my question is...is it ok to stop the active disinterest and alpha ways after attraction and comfort? Being nice, polite, respectful, and giving compliments usually gets you no where when you are building attraction, but how about after all that? Sorry if I am all over the place...kinda hard to explain the question. Thanks in advance.

woahhh!

That is a terrible thing to say! even if said in a cocky/funny way it sounds douchey.

And being an alpha isn't about being a macho and not caring about her opinions, it is about doing what you personally believe is right.


But after a while you have to stop with the disqualifying and let her know you're interested then you can move to S phase and f close!

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Respect the cock.

Clearly, I'm lost...more input please..anyone?

if she wants to watch something.. you could say 'sure.. give me 10 push ups and you can have the TV control for an hour'..

Actually make a funny thing about it and get her to do press ups.. quite funny and thats part of the cocky/funny thing that keeps it interesting.

Dont be a complete arsehole and make her feel low about herself. Just make yourself funny and not just say yes automatically to everything.

just my thoughts anyway..

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here to learn.. thats all.

The TV thing was just an example, forget about that... my question is do you stop the active disinterest once you have attraction and comfort? Can you then start being a nice guy and show direct interest? Or do you keep playing hard to get even after attraction and comfort

I think that answers your question.