Hey guys...excuse the repost, I couldnt get the Poll up and running

In a bit of a complicated situation here. The gist of it is this:

I have been heavily flirting and talking to a girl for several months...but she has a bf. Shes an extremely busy girl and spends any free time she has talking with me and not her bf. We have met up together a handful of times (again the bf doesnt know about this).

I have been hesitant to tell her how i feel about her ( i do want to date her...not just get laid) because its an odd situation....she has been with her bf for 6 years, but they are not even engaged and dont even live together which is why i am even bothering pursuing this girl (all the good ones are taken right?....and shes not 100% committed....obviously since shes paying to much attention to me)

Things have been getting heated lately and we both know how we feel and it has caused negative tension ( to the point where we both have freezed each other out for several days)... I mean there is the chance i am just filling a void in her life and girls just like attention....but as an Alpha I dont accept that as my reality. Also, she got sooo upset with me that I didnt tell her how i feel over the phone(even though i hinted i was going to) and she did a freeze out....I mean what girl does a freeze out if I am just some dude filling a void?

I am now ready to lay it all out and go to the next level. But she is not your typical HB. I think shes smoking hot but shes a bit insecure or at least bashful when it comes to compliments. She seems to like the attention I give her; when we talk about sex and stuff she also gets a thrill, but again, she gets kinda embarrassed afterwards about it.

So I am planning on meeting up with her soon and laying it all out. Its pretty obvious how we feel about each other but we have never directly had a conversation about it or done anything beyond some kino escalation ( so no sex, oral, or even kissing) ..... So keeping in mind that shes kinda bashful, has a bf, etc should I just see her and plant one on her (as many guy and girl friends suggest...after a few drinks) or do i go the route I wold prefer....have dinner/drinks then, in the PUA Alpha fashion, explain to her how she meets my standards of beauty, personality, and virtues that I need in a girl and want her to be in my life....then do some kino/verbal seduction moves and then plant one on her.

I honestly think my way is better and it seems more logical with comfort ( I dont think shes the type that would like a full on kiss out of nowhere)....but most of my friends say talk is cheap, it will freak her out i i talk too much, and it will give her too much time to think....they say just have a normal conversation then let the eyes do the talking and then move in. What do you all think?