I am in mid game with a girl, she gave a huge initial IOI. Now mid game I am finding her reaction to be on and off. She usually responds negatively to any neg and quickly starts to defend herself. If I ask any questions about her personal life she sort of gives blunt answers. She usually reacts very positively to any DHV or adventure I have to share about my life. I have not been able to do much kino as its a workplace environment, but I have tried to talk about her accessories and her nail polish and she responds positively. I have tried to verbalize relocation but didn't get positive response. I asked her has she visited places in the town as she is new here, and is she free on weekends, she said what is there to visit and she has no free time on weekend. I once asked for a pen drive to build up on the compliance ladder but she refused.

So basically I am getting a feeling that I have to build up some more mid game attraction, some micro escalations without verbalizing. before I can take her out.
How to go about it. My current game skills is to get #close and I am developing game after that.

any answers ?

Well first off do you feel you are nagging her or bothering her... you might be coming off as desperate, needy, and that annoying co-worker who keeps hitting on her.

First off take it slower just a bit take two steps backwards, try and build some more attraction between the two of you, make some cute comments a joke, and then thats it, let her think about you a bit. Then as this continues possibly start a conversation and make sure your not putting yourself in the LJBF Zone, make sure your coming off as a possible suitor, but don't harass dont want a law suit. Also if you built enough attraction it won't even be an issue, only the creep who keeps hitting on a girl gets a law suit not the suave PUA. Then dont ask her out, just randomly mention how you and a bunch of friends HAVE PLANS!!! You already have plans not making any with her, and that she should come along if she is free, dont even ask if she wants to come, just mention it. If she says no, you just respond alright and then either continue ur convo or just get back to work... If she says yes, well than get her number and make it happen, but dont over text.

I know this doesnt cover everything but I think this might help with your mindset.

Pretty much

1. Dont harass or talk to her every chance you get
2. Every time you talk build attraction - say a joke something interesting then you can lead into a small convo
3. Don't get deep within the first 30 secs of ur convo
4. Dont ask her out, mention you have plans and she should come if she can
5. If yes get her number if no WHO CARES you are going to party with other friends and meet someone new
6. No harassment

Best of luck
-Raphael

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-Raphael

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