Was going pretty good with this girl, who I hooked up with at a party two weeks ago and then spent the whole saturday night at her apartment. Yesterday however, I have this text conversation after she cancelled our appointment to meet for coffe:

her: "yadayada (she said something really impersonal)
me: Can you meet up some time next week?
her I dont know Eric. (not my real name)
me: starting to have regrets about me?
her:should I be honest?
me: Please
her: I thinks its a bit ugly to fuck someone the day before I invited you over.
me: I didn´t sleep with anyone(wanted too though)

yadayadayadayada, I came of a bit AFC here I think, because I didn´t think I could play it off and she always act a bit cold when I try to play her over the phone.

after alot of texts it comes down to this:

Me: Feels like a goodnight Madam Lina, cya (not her real name)
her: I still don´t know what to do with you. Got to admit that right now, the interest is decreasing. You´ll hear from me sometime. Goodnight to you too!
ME: You are going to meet me once more to see if we have chemistry
her: damn your stubborn
me: Yeah I probably am
her: Oh I don´t know, can´t promise anything
me: haven´t asked you for anything, just feels like it will turn out like that (language alot more fluid in swedish here)
her: Okey, but then I won´t ever get back to you again Good night


Any advice on how to fix this:P? Her texting is very determined contrary to her real personality(which I like a million times more). She has been testing me ALOT so I assume this is just another test.

My last girlfriend, basically told me this,

"I just like the conversation. That's ALL there's to it."

So a while later, when I was tangled up in her, after another session of sex, I asked her, "I thought you just liked the conversation and that was all there was it?" with a smirk.

She playfully hit me and said, "You were a stubborn bastard."

That's your pointer to take here.

Women like stubborn men, men who want what they want and they put time and effort towards getting it. They feel thrilled when they see that a guy is putting this much of work towards getting their affections, and well, they like us quite a bit more than they let on.

Remember to never lose your perspective here. You are a confident, strong willed man not a clingy, weak kid. There will be a lot of (fake)disinterest signs from her, she will test you endlessly to see how committed you are to your goal. On you plough. But, never confuse determination with obsession.

Determined men get the girl, Obsessed men get restraining orders.

Be focused, be strong in your will, and tell her you want you want and you generally get it, without alluding directly to her.

Good luck.

- Don

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" You're born alone and you die alone and this world just drops a bunch of rules on top of you to make you forget those facts. But I never forget. I'm living like there's no tomorrow, because there isn't one. "

Wow thanks Don, took your advice to heart and to anyone who is interested, this is what happened:

I waited a couple of days, as I had said I would and then opened her with this, saying that It wasn´t working for me; not talking to her.

She acted really cold, although always making sure that I would answer her texts. Eventually though, I gave up and told her to have a good life, as we probably were not going to see each other again. I guess she was satisfied with playing me at this point, since she out of the blue asked if we could meet later this week. Then she went really flirty, even asking me to come over (I declined though).

We´re meeting later this week.

Lesson learned: Determined men get women, obsessive men get restraining orders

/sweden

My and your text game is a lot different. I usually just goof off and shoot the shit on texting with random stuff. Hardly qualify and built comfort.

Then the meet goes something like. "AT XXXX PLACE with friends, if your coming out, come hang."

I go to pretty much the same spot every weekend, and is pretty much where I meet the girls. So if they don't show or show, it's not a big deal. And it's a "invite" so her saying no or not responding to it doesn't count as rejection.

Well, I´ll try out the random stuff, that should save me some time as I´m usually texting around 1-5 girls. As for the same spot every weekend, that doesn´t work for me as I don´t go to bars - only house parties. What has worked for me is just building some comefort then making a movie date at either their or my place