Ok so...... I'm your typical AFC who has barely dated..... I have good looks and my friends like my personality. But when it comes to girls I struggle. I am not sure I can adequately give an example of me ever having a girlfriend (although I was pusing people away in the past due to the "emo" phase).


Now that's this is out of the way I have to confess that I did something really stupid.


When I was 15 I totally had a crush on one of the girls in my class. For 2 years I never even once allowed myself to talk to her.

Recently she contacted me on russian facebook. She was surprised when I told her she was my crush, and after chatting for a while........ I did the most AFC thing ever. I invited her to stay with me and my family in London.


I know I have potential to be interesting and fun.... But I can be very raw. I have already told her several times about me having feelings for her, which scared her a bit, but not enough to cancel the trip. (Well I'm paying cos Ukrainian currency is a joke)


So far I understand that my strong points are:

1. I'm from London
2. We knew each other in the past (not very well though. She remembers me as "secretive")
3. Good looks ( I think I'm an 8 or at least a very good 7)
4. Social skills. Even though I'm shy around girls - I used to work as a fitness instructor and personal trainer and used to approach and talk to dozens of people on a daily basis. I went out to bars and night clubs with friends and even was in the center of attention several times. [Its easy for me to talk to a girl if I don't feel I'm under pressure to interest her]

Weak points:

1. Can be really shy, nervous, overthink things.
2. Close to 0 dating experience with girls.
3. (this is not really my weak point but) she is going to be in london with me for 9 days. I haven't really even had a relationship (other than friendship) with a girl that lasted that long.



What I want with this girl:

1. I want for her to enjoy her stay and leave wanting more.
2. I want for her to like me as a guy and not as a friend even if just a little bit.
2a. May be get a proper kiss.

Any advice for this crazy AFC will be appreciated! THANKS (please post links to topics that you think I may need to read... Just remember I wouldn't be able to practise much because my social circle is currently quite limited)

You are good looking and you social skills?AND YOU ARE SHY?
Man i am this ugly looking motherfucker who is made fun of for not being able to pick social cues,yet i still get IOI`s like crazy.You need to pick them balls and start getting on.
To do for you:
- Do some NLP/Hypnosis techniques for self-confidence(look for "affirmations")
- Realize that you are the man every woman needs,who looks good and has social skills too.
- Try learning few routines and tell them to your HB friends in your social circle.And after realizing how easy it is to attract girls (it`s just DHV stories blurted with a few negs) try to figure how to kick your own ass.

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When you realize that rejection doesn`t mean shit you`ll try to find a way how to kick your own ass for being an idiot.