Hey all, first time poster, glad I found these forums. This girl has me pretty confused, which doesn't happen to me often, I'm looking for some input...

I met this HB9 about 2 months ago at a party. I ended up hooking up with a HB10 that night, which the HB9 saw, which definitely served as a DHV...I ended up hooking up with HB9 the next night with minimal effort. We got close, but I couldn't quite F-close.

We hooked up a couple more times, she spent the night with me twice, but I couldn't quite seal the deal (this girl is really hot, but she has some trust issues and has only ever been with 3 guys, one of whom she is still heartbroken over...he doesn't want her, and I don't mind the baggage, so I kept up the pursuit).

We texted a lot after that, had a few phone conversations, and started to develop feelings for each other (or at least I did) when I went out of town for a couple weeks. She sent me a ton of texts that had me thinking I had her hook, line, and sinker (i.e. [verbatim] "I want you," "Do you have any other girls?" "I really, really like you," so on and so forth). I told her I was gonna come see her when I got back, and she seemed truly excited about it. So a couple nights after I got back from my trip, I gave her a call, expecting things to go smoothly and be hitting the sack with her in short order...lo and behold, the excuses started (I go to college about 30 minutes away from her, she'd say things like, "what if I have to do something in the morning and you can't stay," clear nonsense).

I made a number of attempts to set a solid date, but she dodged them all with lame excuses, texting me daily telling me how much she wanted me all the while. The best explanation I got as to why she was dodging me was, "I really do want you, I don't know why I keep avoiding you, it's like I'm too nervous or something." I did everything I could to build comfort , thinking that's where the issue was, but no dice. We ended up falling out of touch for 3 or 4 weeks, and I started seeing someone else.

Last weekend, she got wind of my relationship from her friend, and the texts began again..."I'm sorry for messing it up," "If I could take it back I would," "I really wanted it to happen," etc. I kept it friendly for the sake of my girl, who I ended up breaking up with a couple of days later. HB9 heard about the breakup, and she asked me to come over. I figured that she meant it this time, and tried yet again to plan a date. No response for a week, what a shocker

I'm not in the depths of despair over this by any means, but I'm truly at a loss as to what on God's green Earth is going on in this chick's mind and where I should take it from here. Does anyone have any advice/insight into situations like this? I feel like maybe she only wants what she can't have...is there a way to make a woman feel as if she can't have you, but still get her to meet up with you using nothing but texts/calls? I thought she was just doing all of this for attention at first, but I live with/am good friends with a couple of her friends, and they've told me how much HB9 likes me in the past.

Any thoughts are muchhh appreciated, I've never run into a situation like this before, it's a little disconcerting!

Edit: She texted me last night with her usual "Heyy," I haven't replied, still trying to figure out a response that won't lead down the same road.

i've had lots of those b4 lol. the last one i had took my number down because i didn't make the effort to get hers. she called me that same night and told me to call her soon. called her 2 days later and no response, or call back. called her 4 days later, she said she was busy but would call back. she never did. so i moved on to the next one. my advice to you, move on, if she's a cat trying to catch a string, she will fall for you when youre screwing all these other chicks. or . maybe she wants t see if you really do want to be with her as boyfriend girlfriend and wants to see if you are willing to make the effort.

i've had lots of those b4 lol. the last one i had took my number down because i didn't make the effort to get hers. she called me that same night and told me to call her soon. called her 2 days later and no response, or call back. called her 4 days later, she said she was busy but would call back. she never did. so i moved on to the next one. my advice to you, move on, if she's a cat trying to catch a string, she will fall for you when youre screwing all these other chicks. or . maybe she wants t see if you really do want to be with her as boyfriend girlfriend and wants to see if you are willing to make the effort.

Pull out your phone and ask her why she's flakey. Why not be sincere and tell her you like her far better than all others? It's not like things are going great right now so you've got little to lose by going all out.