Yea feel you're right about the disqualifier stuff, I'm currently using role reversal e.g. "You think I'm after you? Wow all you girls are so one track minded. Sometimes I feel you look at me like a piece of meat". I'll take the advice on board

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I'm using styles 5 questions game to my advantage to confirm attraction, (not forcing it though, I hate canned stuff usually). I think confidence to make a move physically let me down that night. I'll learn from that.
As for the friends situation I've taught my friends some stuff via advice on nights out, I think as it turns out there was a lack of communication between us that night and we where after the same target.
In short I now know to: Inform friends, use disqualifiers, take more risks building kino.
Thanks for the feedback guys, I appreciate it.
R&B