yes, honesty would work the best. i like gruuve's idea:

HB: are you a player?

pua: define a player; i enjoy female attention but i hate hurting them. (something like that)

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That's actually really defensive. You definately don't wanna do that.

exactly.
i found myself in these 2 situations about a week ago:

HB: are you a player?
me: of course!
hb: no, seriously...
me: what makes you think i'm not being serious? (playfully)
hb: players dont admit to being players!
me: *tilted my head and winked)

hb: you're such a player!
me: yup =) but you know that was a slightly random statement, right?
hb: not that random, i saw you kissing my friend earlier and now you're hitting on me!
me: which one was your friend? (heavy c&f... and i actually didnt know which one was her friend)
her: christine!
me: i take no responsibility for that. it's your fault for not saving me!

HB: are you a player

pua: why, do you wanna get in the game ; get in the game, hellooooo mcfly! (spank ass) you are bad!

play the role of the coach and bench her if she doesn't comply or give her a small contract that lasts for the next 5 minutes with a signing bonus if she plays well

Very interesting topic. I have getting this response more often lately, and tbh I didnt know how to respond to it. So, its nice to read about.

i also hear that question sometimes..

most of the times i answer with: no are you a player?
or: if i was a player would i do this ( kino )

Last weekend I got it twice in one evening. In both cases I responded with: "Maybe so, but apparently you dont have a problem with it as you are still standing right here, and you dont seem like your going anywhere either." One asked after kissing the other before, but both didnt seem to care - kissed closed both, one will becoming over later this evening. So far it seems to work. More fieldtesting would be good though.

lol I am sleepy and read it as:

HB: are you a player?

pua: definitely a player: i enjoy female attention but i hate hurting them

Sounds not too bad lol

surprised noone thought of this one:

HB: are you a player?
Me: Ya.


*bow*

HER: are you a player?
YOU: which game
HER: ...a playboy
YOU: I know the GAMEBOY... but the playboy... never heard of
HER: I mean do you hit on every girl?
YOU: no, you?
HER: NO!!!
YOU: hate liers
HER: call me a liar??
YOU: NO I SAID I HATE LIARS, hate deaf people too by the way
HER: why you hate me?
YOU: oh no I love you, come give me a hug

I get actually get offended when asked this question. I'm not afraid of getting upset with women when they say inappropriate things like "are you a player". what i say is not always the same but it's in this ball park...

HB:are you a player?
ME:"really? are you kidding me? that's like me asking you if you are a slut...are you a slut?" (sometimes i fake laugh other time is grin depends on HB body language)

if HB get mad...then you say "see how i feel?" I then actually go into a DHV about a girl and a player and how I "educated" her about players etc etc...it's real story

if HB laughs it off...then you say "I KNEW IT! i am so outta here...unless you by me a drink/give me a kiss (reward me and apologize) blah blah sometimes do the DHV also to keep things moving

I really don't like players that are out for ass...i'm just not that kind of guy...i ended a 6month relationship b/c of boredom and used PUA to get her (i had so much f'n fun but eventually it just died)....my biggest success is just telling the truth and don't be afraid to be angry (women love the emotional roller coaster...just don't get to crazy, pick your battles, keep control, and know when to chill)

The Mystery Method teaches that people have strong emotional reactions to others with significantly higher value. Men will have an emotional reaction in repsonse to a very attractive women, while women will have an emotional reaction in response to men who display the qualities of the Tribe Leader. This emotional reaction leads to an adrenaline rush, and to act in a weird way around the other person. An exceptionally attractive woman causes this reaction in the majority of men, so the method teaches that she will subconsciously believe that any male who appears emotionally unreactive to her is of higher value than she, and she will become attracted to him.

What i'm trying to say is: do not make a big deal about things that aren't a big deal. What SHE is thinking about you must appear as unimportant.

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I'd actually tell her this:

No, I'm not. A player will do everything to get sex. I won't.

DHV!

a girl asking that is telling you that she sees thru whatever front you are putting up and sees that you don't really know what you want. there's no magic line to fix it, cos by the time she asks, you've already fucked up.

player is a bad thing. that's a guy who does whatever it takes to get a girl into bed, and then tells other people about it. it's nothing but pure insecurity.

i used to get that question when i didn't know what i wanted. now i do, and it never comes up. dig deep. why would she sense insecurity?

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