I did tell you that she'd flake.

She was unsure if she really wanted to flake though, and decided to give you one last test of strength, to see if you could actually be the man and arrange a date (you know, like I told you to) but you failed. You just said "Oh no, other than work and the gym I dont have a life or anything better to be doing, I'm completely open so please see me" ...doesn't take a genius to figure out why she ignored you
1. You're talking about her like shes better than other girls, told you to stop doing that and you didn't listen

2. So what if you're better looking and have more money? You're clearly completely clueless about women too... or you'd have listened to what I originally said, and stopped thinking she gives a shit about your looks and money. Women are emotional creatures, so stop trying to use logic and reason with this money/looks crap. You blew it because you're needy and communicated that you've got nothing better to do, and you're way more into her than she is into you.

3. Are you missing something? REALLY!?! Yes! You're missing the ability to take advice lol. You're just throwing money at her and thinking an emotional bond will just build itself. You don't form a connection, or build rapport by giving a girl money.

4. Ok so you're better looking than your friend... but he clearly built enough of an emotional connection with the girl. Which do you think is more powerful? If he understands women and you don't, you're obviously going to blow it.

5. To the guy who was arguing with me... see? This is why I said what I said.

I'm sorry to hear about what has happened, but you only have yourself to blame, man. Just focus on other girls (GIRLS not GIRL - get as many as possible, so rejection wont hurt.) Just class this as a learning experience.

Here's a tip: 90% of the girls that you like, won't be available/single/interested. Don't get hung up on what you can't have. Google oneitis... you have it.

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It's all good dude. Shit happens.

But you need to change your mindset. You're a good looking dude with money, I'm guessing a good job, who takes care of himself. If she doesn't want to go out that's her problem.

When talking about game there are many avenues and they work for different guys and different approaches. But by reading your posts I'm getting a feeling as to your way of thinking and here are my pointers on what you should work on.

1. It's really tough, but stop with the oneitis. There are lots of girls out there. Go and meet them. Don't put all your hopes and dreams on one girl. Then when you do meet your girl you are extremely socially aware and ready to make her yours.

2. Stop with the "I'll spend money on her!" mindset. This sounds harsh but you almost make it sound like you really think that since this chick slept with your friend that you are just a really expensive meal away from boning her. And leaving 15$ tips on an 11 dollar hair cut? It just doesn't look good. I'm not a guy that says that you never spend money on a girl, but you don't spend money for the sake of spending money. Don't take her out shopping. Don't bring her to high end places. Find a cool little place for drinks and take her there, and hype the shit out of it. There's a cool bar room around here that is just straight up old school. Bartender wearing a vest, wood paneling everywhere. It looks like something out of an old mobster movie. So I don't say "he would you like to go get drinks?". I say "I know this killer place for drinks, straight up old-school, like you expect scar face to bust in through the back door, you game or is it past your bedtime? " This kind of invitation is going to go over WAY better than "how about we go to that super fancy steak house, you know, that place that everyone brings the girl on the first date?" And like was said earlier, if you really want to get her something, trade it for a free hair cut.

3. Quit stressing over the texts. Some people don't respond right away. You're life isn't over just because she went four hours without responding.

4. Don't say "my schedule is open". If she asks hen you're free, give her a day. Be the man.

Lol when you told her to pick a day it subcommunicates to her that your schedule is so lex that clearly shes the only girl your talking to. Why would you want her to have that kind of power? That means you will get needy eventually and a whole bag of bad things.

A woman doesnt need to know more than what you want her to know.
But luckily for you, you can still save it by being cockifunny. Text her "okay, so I see you have a hard time making decisions, how does xyxyx sound"
Pick the day !! Be the man !!

A girl wants a man who can make decisions and make things happen, lead lead lead, is such a huge turn off for a girl to have to make the decisions a man should be making. Sometimes you can ask when is good for her, but in this situation shes telling you to choose. Still you havent fucked up big time, text her wat I told you.

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I text her that and suggested Thursday. She says "Shit I have so much going on right now it's hard getting a day where I don't have plans!! I work Thursday and have a makeup party thing after"

To which I responded "Well bring me along! Jk. How's tomorrow lookin" and she didn't text back at all.. Thanks for your encouragement and optimism dtrak but my chances are looking more abysmal buy the hour.

It seems to me you're in the wrong forum mate. If you think OP is right about putting this girl on a pedestal and actually spending HIS money on her when she's done nothing to deserve it, then you know jack shit about women and you know nothing about this game. Plain and simply.

OP, if you actually want to get this girl, reread J.Daniels's posts. You shouldn't spend your money on this girl not because it's not working, but because it's actually COUNTER productive. Women feel attracted to men of higher value. These men are what you commonly know as the Alphas, tribe leaders, badboys, men of status. By chasing her around and paying for all her stuff you are showing her you are her little puppy and she will quite simply not give you any value. Until you stop doing this, she will keep turning you down over and over again.

Are you taking dtrak's horrible advice because he's the only one telling you what you want to hear? Even if you do take his advice, why would you ask her AGAIN after all of that rejection? She knows you want to see her, so let her bring it up. But well done, you and dtrak have now trained this girl to reject you on autopilot.

IGNORE HIS HORRIFIC ADVICE!! It is ruined, I can promise you that. You'd cancel plans as minor as a makeup party if she asked you out, right? My guess is that there's another guy in the picture, and you've ruined it by making all of those pathetic attempts at getting together and being too needy... avoiding my advice like the plague because I didn't kiss your ass... sorry to say this but you've only got yourself to blame for this one.

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Dude... just stop. When she gave you the excuse about not being available on Thursday, what she actually meant was "I have no interest in going out with you". If she was interested, she WOULD have suggested another date herself. But she isn't. And that's why she didn't reply when you insisted.

At this point in time, the more you insist, the more you will sound like a desperate obsessed virgin who is chasing after her because he has no options. Which means not only will she NOT be interested in you, but she will actually be annoyed. If you continue to insist with this girl at this point, she WILL give you a harsh answer and it WILL destroy your confidence. So just stop.

You've blown this one, there's little you can do now.

It seems to me you're a huge beginner at this stuff. My advice is to start learning this game from the start. Read "The Game" by Neil Strauss to get you started. And stop listening to bullshit advise by assholes with no game like dtrak.

THANK YOU. Couldn't possibly agree more with this.

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I think it's time for another hair cut, it's been nearly two months now. I think another visit to her might remind her of how great I am. It's just what the doctor ordered. Think I'll go do that tomorrow.

You'll do WHAT? Seriously, don't. Get your hair cut by somebody else, just this once. You need this girl to miss you... she wont want to see you, if she doesn't miss seeing you... she needs to wonder about you. IT'S A SCIENTIFIC FACT THAT WOMEN ARE MORE ATTRACTED TO MEN WHOSE FEELINGS ARE UNCLEAR!! ...this woman knows exactly how you feel about her... does she seem attracted? Going for regular haircuts has never reminded her of how great you are in the past, and it wont now. "If you keep doing what you've always done, you'll keep getting what you always get. Insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting to get a different result."

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I feel that this is the most important comment on this thread so far..... SHE FUCKED YOUR FRIEND ON THE FIRST NIGHT. IF SHE WANTED TO FUCK YOU TOO, GUESS WHAT? SHE'D HAVE ASKED YOU TO BABYSIT WITH HER! Did I not predict that she'd flake until you got the hint? Now shes doing it even more, and you're just asking "Can I chase her even more and push her away even more? Do what you want, but you've even had a third party tell you to take my advice.

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Are you trolling bro? I can't take this post serious.

If you want advice theres alot of good stuff in the community, but you have to actually attempt to implement some of it.

You're 100% right on this one. I should give her some time/space that makes perfect sense.. But I want to see her very badly, I don't know if I'll be able to take your advice.. If I get a hair cut else where then I'll have to wait like. Atleast two months before I'd get to see her again and that seems like a life time right now

Thats just oneitis. If you really need a haircut, there's no harm in letting her do it in like 2 weeks time I suppose. But dont mention anything about getting together, have the haircut and make flirty smalltalk, but don't mention getting together. Don't contact her again unless she contacts you. When she does contact you, tell her its good to hear from her but you're busy; "I have to go now, but it was good to hear from you. Keep in touch" keep doing that until she eventually brings up getting together.

Until then, date other girls! I know how counter-intuitive this is, but believe me, do it. You're ruining your chances by placing all of your efforts on one girl.

READ THIS BOOK AS MANY TIMES AS YOU CAN, AND ACTUALLY USE THE ADVICE: scribd.com/doc/33421576/How-To-Be-A-3-Man - Corey Wayne.

You can also search on YouTube for "Neil Strauss Audiobook" and find The Game.

Everybody on here will probably tell you the same thing, believe me. Whenever you get an urge to text her or something, write the text as a comment on here, and wait for a reply.

Do you have a smartphone? Download Tinder. Spend time with friends, use Tinder, and try to really study game. There's a sticky thread on the forums somewhere about starting out by walking around the mall just saying "hi" to everyone you see, and giving them a smile - thats an amazing way to work your way up to cold approaches. "Spin more plates" is a quote that I like. If you're spinning 10 plates, and you drop one, you'll partly be relieved that you now only have to spin 9 but if you're spinning 1 and you drop it... you've dropped everything.

Sorry for the long reply, but you really do need to start taking some of this advice.

I understand that its hard to not contact her, but ask yourself this... has contacting her helped so far? I don't think so, or this thread wouldn't exist. You've been over-pursuing her to the point that you've turned her off. You need to vanish for a while to make her think that you've got other options. Women like you a lot more when you've got options with other women. If she thinks "Oh I can have this guy whenever I want" then she wont be in any kind of rush, but once you STOP chasing her, she MIGHT just miss you, and reach out. Trust me, I've been there, I know how hard it is. But it works.

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With this girl it's not oneitis, she really is something special. But I like your two weeks idea and will most likely follow that. She's never seen my arms before so maybe I'll wear a wife beater,"take her to the gun show and see if she likes the goods"...Kidding on the wife beater.

"Until then, date other girls!" Ha! Easier said than done mate Like.. I'm REALLY good at picking up fat chicks (figuratively and literally as I am quite robust) but dude. I don't want my first time to be with a fat girl.
I don't know if y'all go by the "slay dragons before you find the princess" credo but I don't want my first time to be with a fat girl, I want it to be with someone I can fall in love with.