Hi guys!

I was tempted to ask for help before but I am now in a situation where reading up other posts or pua theory doesn`t help me further. Would you mind helping me out with this one? Sorry for my bad English by the way, it`s not my mother tongue.

So the situation is like this: A girl which I like very much has moved back to her country recently. I am convinced that she also likes me (had k-closes), but as it got serious just a few weeks before her departure she rejected the idea of us being together. I have been friends with her for almost 2 years. The vibe was already good last year, but we were both in steady relationships at that time. I haven`t seen her for half year recently, but when we met again this time it somehow was on. Big factor for sure was that she broke up with her boyfriend and I was disgruntled with my girlfriend. Now as we can`t be together, she is giving me some “going back to be friends” crap. You might say that as she went back to her country anyways I might accept this offer, but here is the thing: There is a high possibilty that I will be working in her country next year. In addition, it might even happen that she will move to the same town for work. In such a situation I will be damned if I cannot make her mine. So here is my question: How should I treat her in the meantime?

Standard pua theory says that when you are friendzoned you should stop seeing her, build up value and return to her life later. That is also actually my plan, but in that context I am wondering how much contact is still allowed in the meantime. Today she suggested to me again that we could talk on SPAM. I am against this idea as I fear that without kino everthing that is not friendship would be squeezed out of this relationship. I confident that I can connect with her emotionally, but that is not enough, right? Or can occasional SPAM sessions were I connect with her deeply help me keeping her thoughts on me and at least raise the threshold for other guys to achieve something with her? It comes down to this: Should I stay in her life with SPAM and be her emotional support (she has some insecurities) or should I keep distance and return with more value in triumph when the time is ripe in the future?

I know this sounds like a case of oneitis and it probably is, but while I accept the fact that there is an abundance of girls, LTR or even marriage material is scare. I can hit on some other girls in the meantime, in fact, that is even my plan to get the neediness out of my system and appear more attractive to her, but it won`t change the fact she raised quite the bar regarding what I expect from a woman. Tracking down a similar girl will take considerable ressources. As I know that I have chances with her I don`t want to give her up so soon.