Hi guys, i'm working as a barista in a restaurant in my city mall and there is this girl who is gorgeous as hell, who works as a waitress there. first i showed zero interest, then threw some words she barley was responsive and then somehow we managed to eat together after the shift. got to know each other innocently and i managed to flirt a little bit. after that asked her for a ride and she said yes and apparently we live in the same neighborhood. from the work place to the car and to her house we talked and laughed and smoked together but right next to her house she joined her hands and was very quiet. after that thought about it and maybe i was a bit aggressive and didnt spoke "eye to eye".
very important: i started studying so i downgraded my shifts to one two max a week so its pretty hard for me to see her at work where anyways there is minimum communication. so the obvious way is not at work so i added her on facebook and sent her a message about something i promised to help her. she said thank you, replied with "tell me how it worked out" and was about it.
She is hot. I want her and she doesnt seems intrested. we had a good talk but thats about it. usually i would suggest to a guy like me to make more attraction and maybe be more direct but actually i am freaked out. like i know what to do but dont do it. i know its maybe because of the pressure i put on myself but maybe if you guys can help me out a little bit like give me a few practical steps or tips that would help.
one more thing: i been with women. not few. but except one or two out of them non was really like "HOT" and the ones that were "HOT" after we did something it didnt last long. so maybe all of the cases connected to each other so you can help me in general.

This is the only problem. You need to act. I'm going modify one of Dragula's suggestions for you. Pull $100 out of your wallet (or whatever is equivalent in your currency) and give it to one of your buddies. Tell him that he gets to keep it if you don't walk up to this girl and ask her out by the weekend.

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ok thats good lol, but the problem is just like that? without any "prepration"? or what i just described it's enough?

Lol. I know that at some point in my life years ago I thought that asking girls out that I was already acquainted with required some kind of build up. Reality is that she has spent time with you and knows right now at this moment if she would ever want to go out with you, but the longer you wait the more likely she's going to lose any attraction that you may already have. That being said, ask her out and give her a reason why you want to go out with her.

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simple as that. i like that, thank you . any tips for the date itself?

Since you didn't really make an effort into it the first time...I'd suggest drinks first and then some place isolated near where you live and then try to show her that one thing that you just bought that's back at your place.

During drinks, just talk and be flirtatious. Your second stop, treat her like she's your girlfriend (hand holding, hugs when you get the chance). Your place...drive things home.

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ill take that thanks. hope it works let you know either way.

So i asked her out today and she said yes, told her sometime this week she said we'll keep in touch. Few hours later she told me maybe we should cancel the date cause it will affect the working relations (lol). Told her it wont affect it are you sure and she said maybe we'll wait a bit.i Haven't replyed yet.
I want to know in this case if she is really not so interested and just move on, or she is but she wanna see how i react(like a shit test). If so, what should i do? (My only way to initiate converstaions it via facebook cause i dont work that much and her aswell)

It's a tossup. She probably didn't like the idea of turning you down to your face, so she waited to do it by text. It also could be that she doesn't want to be involved with someone from work. The "maybe we'll wait a bit" makes me think that it's the first because it sounds like she's trying not to hurt your feelings.

Either way, don't be affected. There are other girls.

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You sure? If thats it thats great i wont get affected. Just to know, what could i do better from what i described? Or it just the case of me being good but other variants played their part?

Like I said...it's a tossup, so I'm not sure.

The thing that I think that you did wrong is that you backed off when you thought she got quiet on the night you guys hung out. IMO, those are the moments that kill guys. They have opportunities and then turn meek. You should have pushed the envelope a bit and if she didn't like that she would have told you to stop.

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A girl who has to work along side you ain't gonna reject you the same way a stranger will reject you.

The issue is, that these girls are so polite and indirect about it that it confuses the guy that he still has a chance, this is a perfect example:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gqdNe8u-Jsg
This is a polite way of letting you down. If you didn't know her and you was to approach her on the way to work, it would probably be a different response but the same result, also, a much more blatant and clear response.

That being said, approaching a girl cold and bold might actually make her attracted to you for showing some balls, but that ship has sailed since you took so long to make a move anyway

More girls. Find them, like Pokemon

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