Hey i recently started chatting to this girl who i have known for a while, anyway we have always flirted with each other and that but about a month ago we were chatting and i asked her out for drinks blah blah blah and she was like hells yeah im down.

After that i didnt set a date and i did a afc move cause this chick is smoking i would say a hb9 , i looked her up on fb and sent her a message and then it came across as if she friendzoned me so i pulled her up on it and she said she just got out of a relationship and she has to friendzone me for herself for self preservation. Which is fair and i understand so i was like yeah thats cool well we can still go out for something to eat before drinks so our stomachs wont be empty and she never replied (this was all a month ago)

Yesterday i was working and i had to go get a drink and i had to walk passed her work, on my return here she is standing in the middle of the mall waiting for me, as soon as i walked in the door she is like "heeeeey"
I reply hey thinking to myself how awkward this is going to be and straight away she is like you hate me dont you and i said no what are you on about and she hoes because i friendzoned you i just had all this trouble with past boyfriends and that and im like nah idc, i wasnt asking you out it was just going out for food and shes like oooooh i still wanna go out for shots with you and i have lost interest for her so i was like yeah well we will organise something but i gotta go so ill catch up with you and left it at that.

Inbetween that whole month we didnt have no contact and i stopped going to her shop to get food which i use to do on a daily.

Would also like to know should i still not go there or because she chased me down its ok now and also what would be the next best steps plus if u see anywhere where I fucked up please tell me and yeah i understand the afc with fb i did before i wont be doing that shit again.

From what I can gather, you've started chatting with a girl that you've known for a while.

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Haha nah my bad man i accidentally hit submit while scrolling on me screen

The mistake that you've made is get her to talk about why she's put you in the friendzone. Talking about things like that gives her the need to justify what she's done. Once she's justified it, it becomes a good decision in her mind. If you suspect that a girl has put you into the friendzone and is resisting you attempts of escalation, she is no longer worth your time and you don't need to discuss it with her.

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Hella man, thankyou for your wise words, ill definitely be keeping that inmind in the future.

The other thing if you could help is what do you think she was trying to do by coming up to me yesterday and wanting to go out for drinks with me?

I get this feeling that she would of been hella keen to get with me if it wasnt for the situation she was in

I wouldn't doubt this. She is always going to be feeling some type of way, no matter what type of situation she is in. The important thing is how you make her feel around you. If she is attracted to you and you just focus on that attraction and not any other situation she may be dealing with, she's going to follow your lead. She'll follow your lead because you'll make her feel good when she's with you.

You can go out or drinks with her and act like none of the other stuff ever happened.

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