Hey guys I need some help with this girl who I have been talking 2 for a couple of days. I've been talking to this girl for a couple of days, I met her in a club, we talked for a while, we were laughing and having a good time. She gave me her number and since then we have been talking on the phone and SPAM. Today I decided to ask her on a date. She refused and said I don't know you that good to go on a date with you, so I said that's why we should go so you get to know me better. She said the same again, I can't go on a date with a guy I don't know. We have been talking on the phone and were laughing a lot, we got to know each other a little bit so I thought lets move forward to the next step.
So my question to you guys is: How can I convince her to go on a date with me? What should I do different? Maybe some routines I can use?

Thanks in advance.

I think her refusing the date, even though she gave you IOIs is a sign that there was too much buying pressure for her when you asked for the date. You should write how you asked her. A bet for a really casual get together where she is not the center of the date like "i have to get myself some shoes for work in the mall tomorrow, come and join me, i need a consultant" would have worked.

Cheers

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Thanks sky!

Well I am from the Netherlands so I asked her in Dutch, but in English it is like this:
Me: I think it is time for stage 2.
Her: What is stage 2?
Me: stage 2 is when I ask you if you wanna grab something to drink in the city?
Her: sorry I don't date guys i don't know that well
Me: Well this is a way to get to know me.
Her: No sorry,I am not like that, I don't date people I don't know that good.

And then it was a different subject! I probably said something wrong and I couldn't reply anymore so we went to a different subject.

Thanks in advance

Haha it is exactly how i thought.. You see this "stage 2 thing" brings her really into pressure... Because now she has to take responsobility for what you two are getting in.. You know what i mean?

That was a mistake. I dont know but you should now continue for some time just talk with her and build attraction and comfort and then after some time (better do it on the phone than texting) ask her for some random thing you would do anyways where she should join you. Dont make it a date, make it a low pressure sales like i described

Cheers

Be careful here. Maybe she is just playing with you and wants you in the friendzone.

It makes no sense when she says that she doesn't want to go on a date with you because she doesn't know you. THe only reason why two human beings go on dates is to get to know each other.

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I agree with Skyrock3t. Since you mentioned stage 2 (=dude! You just met the girl!!!), you are making things too serious and giving her pressure.

She already indicated that a 'formal date' is too much at this moment. So indeed as Skyrock3t mentioned, disguise the date into something more 'low profile'.

Succes jongen!

In a few days ask her if she wants to grab a coffee. Keep it simple. Don't talk about "stage 2" or dating. If coffee isn't your thing then think of somewhere public, in the day time and doesn't involve alcohol.

From my experience, Dutch girls are very sociable. I even got approached one time by a Dutch girl and danced with her while her boyfriend was NEXT to her (of course no sexual dancing, just normal dancing).

Either your target is sociable and polite or she has some kind of ASD and she doesn't want to look easy. Talk to her a little bit more and use time contraints for asking her out again. Something like this: "Hey, want to go have a drink? But tomorrow I have to get up early, so It's not going to get late." Something like that.

A few months ago I was in a similar situation. We talked for weeks and I asked her out a couple of times. She always came up with excuses or she said she didn't know me well enough until I asked her out again and used three false time contraints in one text message. Then she agreed to meet me.