so i number closed a barista i really like after going to the coffee shop where she works for about 2 months and slowly creating attraction and comfort.

now that i got her number we have exchanged a few txts and for the first two messages she took about one day after i sent the text to respond.
then i asked her to go out wednesday last week and said she coulndt that day but to hang out another day. then i mentioned to her a few days later i had a big party on saturday and she agreed to come and i said i would call her.

that day i called her twice and she didnt pick up the phone.
yesterday i called her once and she didnt pick up.

can anyone advise what should i do so that i dont lose all the progress that ive done with this chick?

thanks!

there is no progress with this chick, this is a flake right here, 3 trys and forget about her and get new numbers, start going out regularily, even 1 day a week, and make your goal 5 approachs every time you go out, and no matter what during these 5 approachs always ask for the number, if it has been going good, ask, if it has been going bad, ask, if it was 2 minutes, ask, if it was 2 hours, ask,

ask how every you want, see what works best for you, you can ''tell her'' you can ''ask her'', you can just put your phone in her hand, you can draw a diagram on a napkin, doesn't really matter at all, the point is at least try, not making it clear what you want = not getting what you want

when girls take forever to respond, and won't answer the phone they are not comfortable with you, and are giving little to no compliance, don't expect a girl to give you anything but excuses if she won't even talk to you on the phone, you have to establish a better impression in person with her

well, that doesnt explain the fact that when she was working she gave me plenty of IOI's and the fact that she suggested we go out on her first text and the accepted going out on saturday.

if she wasnt interested she wouldnt have responded to my texts at all...

to me, i have only tried twice since two calls were placed on a same day...
im gonna give it one more shot but im looking for suggestions on how to approach her differently so she wont flake...

any tips on creating attraction and comfort by text perhaps?

did she show up saturday?, does she text you?, people that are interested don't tend to make excuses not to, they tend find excuses as to why they should, normally when a girl likes you the norm is not, SORRY I GOT A MILLION EXCUSES, it looks more like her calling you constantly and trying to get your attention

building attraction:
-be better looking (hit the gym)
-be more stylish/good grooming
-confident bodylanguage and subcommincations (vocal tonality/projection)
-add value to converstations instead of taking it (start new threads, multi thread off them, build rapport and break it, instead of seeking it)
-control the vibe and keep it positive and attractive (comfort and seduction tend to happen in lower energy, but to get someone more attracted to you, that tends to happen in a slightly higher then normal energy, it is like being enthusiastic)
-have a strong reality (frame control etc.)
-social proof
-attractive lifestyle

building comfort:
-gain and test compliance
-get her to talk about herself and build rapport, focus on commonalities
-calm low energy vibe, less playfulness more serious vibing
-spend time with the person
-let the person get to know things about you, the more intimate, the more the comfort


go get more numbers, never focus on one girl at a time, it is a death trap, you have to talk to many vaginas, to get inside of one vagina

Thanks man, this is really useful! You are absolutely right
Tonight im simply gonna go out and meet new women.

You gave me some pretty good advise, i appreciate it.

Thank you!!