So im seeing this problem. I had an HB8 i got her number by doing a routine i like to do as if posing that I am not looking for a relationship before hand. Girls apparently dig it its just as simple as asking them if they are single in some creative and when they ask you, you tell them no and you dont believe you are ready to handle a commit ed relationship. Any way, i got her number i wanted to hang out she said not on that day i said " OK let me know when you are free". We never hung out. I did it again with another girl and well we are still texting.

The problem here is that When I ask a girl to hang out and she says " She's busy and would like to do it some other day." I go ahead and say "let me know". By saying so i leave the power in their hand which I know is wrong. What would be a good response to " I am busy on that day , how about some other day"?

I need help i feel my game is good but this question always makes me give her the power. I need real help on this aspect of my game of deferring the date/hangout. Maybe I should build more rapport over the cell phone.

Just keep asking and be persistent. Don't say "get back to me" Ask her if she's keen to do something through the entire next week. So something like "hey, i'm going to the beach sometime this week, you should come". Then if she's like "No i'm busy everyday. then you're shit out of luck.

Simply tell her the next time your free? I don't see a problem with that, as long as its not, the next day..

Conclusion: "Can't do another day this week. how about next week?"

If she's just like "Can't do that day sorry" then you can just say "Maybe some other time" and end the convo/ or not your choice

i see it like, if she wants to hang with you she will show you in some way like

dood: hey wana hang out tonight at ____
girl: oh im going out with my friends maybe another night?


n if it plays like this: proceed like:

dood: hey wana hang out tonight at ____
girl: oh im going out with my friends
dood: cool have fun!


at that point she will either see you are not desperate and ask for later that week/ day or something, or she will say nothing (shes not interested). Pushing for a yes or being persistent will make u look desperate, or like you got no other people to hang with.

if she doesnt have a legit excuse and says "some other time," this is just a girl being polite and saying she doesnt want to hang out with you. if this happens, suggest another day/time, when/where. be specific. dont say "Wanna hang out?" That implies you only want to hook up with her. Say "You got plans (enter day/time/place)?" if she comes up with another excuse, that is likely a good clue shes not that into you. If youre really into this girl, I suggest waiting a week. Take some time off. Dont be too eager and needy. After a week or so suggest something again. Another excuse and it's time to move on