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im going thru the same thing but i fucked up and didnt escalate quickly so i gues im on the friends zone...
my suggestion and i could be wrong is to notice how everyone treats her on the soccer field. everyone is nice to her i am assuming. when ever u talk be the 1st one to leave or look away pretend your distraced. pretend she is nothing special. dont treat ther like the other guys. as for the dude she likes, women have this love map embedded in them. for example u see girls that tlike chubby guys and date chubby guys, black dudes, rockers etc etc. so if this guy fits her love map... ur kinda screwed. BUT again re invent ur self. for example invite some girls to play soccer with you and make sure she sees you coming with them. they dont have to be thte best looking ones as long aas they are females.. lol. that will provide pre selection. befriend her guy friend and figure out wat he is doing to get her. Maybe when you are all together try to be the LEADER of the group talk to everyone except her. if she says something to u ignore her or slighlty acjknowledge her until she u start to notice a change. whatever your are doingn is prob not working.
again bro this guy might fit her love map so he might have the advantage on you. also suggest inviting EVERYONE to watch a champions league game at ur house bar or something. that will show her that you ar social. if you invite her to a one on one to watch a soccer match she will most likley reject tthink that ur trying to get wit her. if your organize this this shows some leadership. dont forget and treat her differenlty than everyone else. THIS DOES NOT MEAN BE SUPER NICE. but dont be a complete dick lol.
well my man i hope everthing works out for you. this is what i would do. let me know how it goes... BEST OF LUCK and i wich you the best.
I think I'm on the right track. When I first met her, I did talk to her occasionally. When we were taking off our boots/shinguards after the scrimmage I didnt talk to her, I just said 'nice meeting ya, bye'. When I ran into her the second time, she was a lot more responsive. It was at a homecoming pep rally and she saw me crowd surf and start a mosh pit, so she noticed how fun/energetic I was. The third time I saw her was yesterday at the soccer tournament. I said 'hi' to her along with a little side talk and then left to my team immediatly. I didnt apporach her either, she was at the tournament official's desk at the same time I was when I said 'Hi'. I've been trying to come across as 'not trying'