hey I'm pretty good at opening and getting numbers I will get at least one any night I try to ... but...


...I'm not that great at building attraction on dates, I've been on like 6 this month and only one I am likely to go another date with, another girl I made friends with.

What's the general advice?
What do I need to know?

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I fall into the same trap as you! I get numbers a lot and go on about 8-10 dates a month. My phone and text game are solid. But I am doing something on dates that is causing all to come undone. I am told how funny I am and how they had a great time. Somehow i am falling into "nice guy" mode and women know they can always find a nice guy. I listen to them, share funny stories, but I don't creating the sizzle that is needed.

I plan on experimenting each time but anxiety kicks in and my intentions get sidelined. I drive home thinking, "idiot! You had the same date as the previous 10!"
I follow up with a call or text to receive " Had a great time and you are so funny and nice. I don't think we have any chemistry though" UGH!!!!

Would love to hear some expert advice on this. I have made *some* progress in this area the past few months. But not enough.

Things I have changed about myself on first dates:
- never be self-deprecating, jokey - I am not there to entertain them
- amp up the amused mastery
- go for friendly and laconic vs. chatty
- Always go for the kiss

I think that despite these things, my conversation is lackluster - one girl recently told me I hadn't asked her any questions...she makes a good point

feel you guys, I keep getting that I'm funny
and I neg and they laugh at my negs and we go back and forth a bit
even get in a bit of kino, but my hand on their back when they walk through a door or on their arm at times but I just can't build it into solid sexual chemistry

looking back at girls I've already gone out with or slept with the sexual chemistry thing came in very early and very naturally for me with them, mostly before I knew anything about "the game"

but I know that chemistry can be manufactured because I've felt it on "on nights" when I've just been naturally "in the zone"

also if I have to wait for it to come naturally I might be waiting a long time hahaha

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those who say it can't be done should get the fuck out the way of those doing it