(Thought I'd share some info, found a few older posts written by a friend who used to go by Babygirl. Knows what he's talkin about.)


“To increase, enlarge or intensify”… “To increase in intensity or extent.”

Most guys who are looking at getting better with women will have heard of escalation.

Escalation is extremely important. Why?

• It helps the guy to lead the interaction in the right direction. Furthermore, girls are attracted to leaders and therefore escalation is a key skill to have.
• Smooth, assured escalation displays confidence and dominance.
• It is usually the man’s role to escalate; i.e. if you don’t do it, the likelihood is that you will be masturbating alone this evening.
• When you stop escalating, you will often fall into the trap of engaging in fluff talk; a proven killer of attraction.
• The faster you learn to escalate, the faster you can get a girl into bed; sex is really pleasant

For the reasons above, within reason, we should always be looking to escalate.

The most popular forms are kino and sexual escalation, but this is very one dimensional. Most men don’t realise that there are many other types of escalation.

• Verbal sexual escalation
• Sexual escalation by email/MSN/text/online.
• Breaking this down further still, you can escalate differently on work email than you should in personal email.
• Kino escalation in a coffee shop is different to kino escalation in a club; both are different when you have a girl in your bed.
• I get great results by insulting women in a playful way and to do this, I must escalate. “Insult escalation?”
• Kissing escalation.
• Conversational escalation.
• And many more…

We could “increase the intensity or extent” (or escalate) hundreds of activities in our interactions with the opposite sex. They are all different: some are in person, some over the phone/internet; some verbal, some non-verbal and so on…

With all these different types of escalation, you would be forgiven for thinking that you have a lot to learn… But you would be wrong. You have to learn one model. You have to learn Baby Girl’s model.

The principles of escalation remain the same however you are choosing to do it. Therefore if you learn the principles behind escalation in general, you can apply them to any escalation from the above list and any other form you choose.


The Principles of Escalation:
In the next few paragraphs, I will apply the principles of escalation to Kino and then explain how they relate back to every other form of escalation.

Brushing the hair away from a girls face to putting your hands in between her legs are two very different forms of Kino. You could say that they are polar opposites on the kino scale.

Brush hair from face --------------------------- Rub in between legs
(Very light kino) (Very sexual kino)

Practically every other kind of Kino could fit somewhere on the above spectrum. For example, touching an arm may be on the lower end of the scale. Grabbing a girl’s arse would be towards the upper end etc…

Start Gently: Generally, you should start kino at the lower end of the scale and then look to escalate from their.

Calibration:
Calibration is an absolutely vital skill in escalation; you simply cannot do without it. If you haven’t got it, then you need to practice through trial and error. The better your ability to calibrate, the better you will be able to work out where you are in the interaction and the smoother you will be able to escalate.

Calibration in action. If a girl keeps her distance and does not engage willingly in risqué topics of conversation, I would calibrate and suggest that kino would have to start off slowly and escalate pretty slowly. On the above scale, I would focus on adding value in the conversation and start brushing my hand against her arm (non sexual kino) and go from there.

If I start talking to a girl and she comes in close to me and puts her hand on my lower back while we are talking, I will take this that she wants to be touched and I will escalate a lot faster. I may jump in half way on the above scale and destroy her personal space; grab her lower back (reasonably sexual kino).

In the above interactions, I am constantly listening to her actions (not her words) as to whether she has accepted my kino. If she has, then further escalation is not too far away 

Escalation must be smooth:
We must escalate in a way that doesn’t shock or scare her away; we therefore must learn to escalate smoothly. Don’t just go from brushing their hand to grabbing their arse; the jump is too much and you will get blown out. If we escalate smoothly, she is much more likely to accept our escalation. Please note that smooth escalation does not necessarily mean slow escalation. You can escalate super fast and super smooth as long as you are doing things with the correct technique.


Kino escalation in action:
1. Start small and do something on the lower end of the scale; brush the hair away from her face, brush past her arm. Most girls won’t have a problem with this.
2. Keep talking.
3. Then you need to escalate; so you move your hand to touch her arm and she pulls away / flinches and moves back. She has not accepted this escalation.
4. Treat this as a shit test. You must pass the shit test (PLEASE SEE PAGE XXXXXX)
5. Then you must carry on talking to her to demonstrate that you are not bothered by her reaction; this is vital. Until this is totally natural to you, you want to convey that you are just too cool to worry about a little negative reaction to your behaviour. When you get better at this, you genuinely just won’t care and it will all really start to flow.
6. After a few minutes of conversation, you must escalate again at the same level, or a level just below. (Note: the better the conversation between the shit test and the escalation, the more likely she will be to accept your escalation.
7. So the hand goes back again.
8. Because she is more familiar with the hand there, she will be more likely to accept it. If she does not, then you must return to point 4 and work through the process again. If she does accept it, then you must not freeze and think “yes - I have escalated… I am king of the world!!!” As with a shit test, you must talk and chat to demonstrate that this is totally natural and normal thing for you to do.
9. After a few more minutes, it is time to escalate again. Then you must look to escalate again.
10. If she does not accept, treat it as another shit test and continue as before.

In the above system, the timescales are very loose guidelines and do not need to be adhered to. Solid calibration is much more accurate than any common standard or rule I can give to you. We are dealing with human beings, not robots; every girl will be different. Hone your skills of calibration and no better will they serve you than in the process of escalation.