A while back I was flirting with a girl and everything went great initially - she was laughing at my jokes...I got a big free DHV because I go to Harvard...we started dancing...finally she says "What [undergrad] house do you live in?". I tell her. She says: "Great, lets go there in like five minutes."

At this point I'm thinking: Nice. Score. Then everything goes to shit. She drops a huge shit test that I am in no way prepared to handle in my inebriated state, asking "Why don't you have a girlfriend?!" in a really suprised manner. All the alcohol goes to my head and I give an embarassing and awkward answer. Even sober, though, I'm not sure how I should have handled that one...

Suggestions? How do you handle a question like that? Thanks a bunch.

I would use that shit test to explain my view on sex and relationships:

I would explain that in my opinion there are so many superficial relationships out there which are so meaningless and often are only there because the girl cant live without a guy, and the guy wants to get laid. So personally I am only interested in causal relationships until I find a girl I am actually in love with. Personally I don't want to commit to anyone unless there is some kind of emotional attachment before committing to a relationship.

I have used this before and its worked for me, it my general honest opinion.

otherwise I am sure you could respond with some frame controlling, cocky funny one-liner:

"I did, but then she started liking me waaaay to much. She got clingy and crazy and I just had to let her go..."

its not lying, its flirting

I tell them that I go on a lot of dates because I'm still looking for someone good enough, but haven't found anyone yet. I thought I had found some in the past, but they disappointed me.

This makes her want to qualify herself, and DHV, as many girls want to be with you. Also doesn't create false expectations for her, but allows her to think there's a possibility for her become your girlfriend. It's a goal she can work towards, so that she can "fix" you. They love that stuff.

The next time you're out of it and realize it, just tr to stall the answer. Don't deflect it, or she'll think you're avoiding it. Just tell her that that's a serious question (for anything big), and that you'd prefer to be able to talk with her seriously abut it. Most girls respect and appreciate you're going to be level with them, that you're taking their question seriously, and that you're "taking them into your confidence".

Thanks, those are money.

I prefer fucking goats

"I'm a little picky when it comes to girls", don't mention anything about a past relationship because that will just lead to more questions, it's best to just answer the question and move on.

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This is good. Just tell them you like to really get to know a girl and make sure you're right for eachother before you commit. Talk about how people are usually in such a rush to get with anyone they can find, and how it's pointless.

I usually just say something like "I still haven't found my soul mate."

Seems to disarm pretty easily and we move on quickly from there.

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I have been asked that by a girl who was a long time friend, yet still attracted. I don't think of it as a shit test, but rather an indicator of her interest. Of course, that was a different situation then what you might have experienced.

The way I'd handle it today is by stating that I have many female friends, but wanna keep the girlfriend spot open for that special one. ;p

lol, gotten that before. I just kept it playful and said something like.

"Mother is very strict on who I date. She has to be rich, and have at least 3 unicorns."


point is, don't jump through her hoops with logic. Logic kills attraction. But this rule needs to be broken also. If she is jumping through your hoops and she ask a reasonable question, like "what do you do for work." Of course you can ask her that.

I personally love shit test, there easy way to built attraction. Too bad I don't get them all the time.