This girl i messed around with in high school called me out of the blue today and we met up at the gym, then went hot tubbin

anyway we still have feelings for each other all these years.
and she admitted to me at one point she fell in love with me in 9th grade
and that kinda scared me so i stopped talking to her. i guessed that really crushed her, were talking now and were cool but now she is giving me all these shit tests
cause she doesnt trust me.

she said things like..

do you think im fat?( shes slim and has amazing curvs)

i didnt know how to respond to that, i said im fat you think that bothers me none?
another..

you dont like me anymore do you?

im thinking in my head im like ummm.. i do but i cant just say it.



me and her kept playing cat and mouse at each other the whole time we were theere. it was really funny, we kept walking around avoiding each other with smiles on our faces, then get close again and chat some more.

anybody have any advice on how to gain this chicks trust?
i want to date her, not just hump and dump

My advice based on personal experience, I new to this "game thing", suggest a couple places you want to check out or one that she has mentioned. Make sure your destination is a couple hours away. Plan it to be a day trip, make sure it's somewhere that has clubs and nightlife, and make sure she doesn't have plans or obligations earlY the next day.

Take the day trip, arriving in the afternoon early evening. Walk around, hold her hand every now and then but don't be too clingy. Have a place picked out for dinner, and make a reservation in advance.

After dinner check out a couple bars, then transition to nightlife....drink some more...dance, make friends as a couple. Keep drinking... Drunk or not pretend to be too inebriated to drive, tell her you wanna get a room and play it safe.... If she's into you shell be with it, get a room... Do the damn thing.

Works for me but I rarely do it with chicks I'm just tryna hookup with, usually gf material which seems to be what you're after.

The best way to handle those questions is not to answer them. I don't mean stay silent, make a joke out of it or make her realize you know exactly what she is up to.
Trust is a fragile thing and takes longer with some people than the others. The key thing here is to share stories that embed the message you are trustworthy. Follow up on every one of your promises. Little things matter to girls more than guys. It may take some work, but everything worth having usually does.
Check out The Art of Seduction by Robert Greene

Al

thnx, and today things are going much lamer.
i called her wanting to hang out and she gives me more shit tests.

her: are you begging?
me: im not a dog.
her: ill think about it
me: k call me, bye.

she texts back saying.
Her; are you going to purr?
me: roof roof mean dog
her; are you calling me a dogg?
me: do you want to be called one?
her; fuck you

i called her again and shes all like dont talk to me.

she texts back an hour later saying
when you decide to stop acting immature then talk to me.
then i said. not gonna argue, and i will.

this girl is a trust maniac, guys get close to her and it doesnt matter how good looking, seductive they are. her anti-slut sheild is HUGE!!

thats a good thing though =] shes giving me one-itus like a mofugga right now. haha

how would of you PUA's handled it

Well the first stuff she was saying in the hot tub wasnt shit tests. She was looking for validation.

But the stuff she said in text was shit tests. You basically just have to come up with your own rules and regulations when it comes to girls. I personall don't like dealing with a lot of bullshit, so if a girl is acting like that girl was acting when she was texting you, I usually am just really honest and say "look, im not really looking for a lot of games. I like you and your really cool, but I don't like feeling like I like some1 more than they like me, so if you're gonna keep playing games, we dont have to continue talking" You can reword however you want to reword it, but the key is to not sound needy or like you're saying it because you're hurt. You just have to say it matter-of-factly and it is what it is.

But I think at the end of the day, I think this girl just needs some validation. Be a little more up front with the fact that you like her. You don't to confess your love to her or anything like that, but don't be afraid to explicitly state your interest in her.

That girl has security issues. Nothing excessive about what u said. ( imo)

@steve, your the man dude thanks!

and she might be kinda insecure, or she just will not give into a guy that just wants sex from her