Hey guys, it is me Jabmaster, again.
I bring you an interesting situation:

For the last months I've been taking some dance lessons (and man, I DO need them). So, one of the reasons I wanted to take lessons, besides my clumsiness, was that I am currently working in a different cities and I wanted to make some female friends, maybe get target buuuut bad luck, class is full of couples ... anyway it is OK for me, I do like the lessons.

In these lessons the only girl I dance with is my teacher, she is cute, a couple of years younger than me.

At first when I started, she was a little shy around me and I would use it to flirt a little and used the dance to do some light kino and stuff, things were going slow but good. But as time passed (two months) we became "friends" or something like that. Man, I even got a couple of ppupy eyes back then.

So a month ago I came with a frame to play with her, I told her that from there onwards we would be "mortal enemies" and we would "hate" each other deeply.
Now I can see this frame working great with other girls, but for this one I have created a tease monster.
Now, everytime we interact is only about teasing each other.

Problem is, if I try to come up with any other frame, she will end up teasing me and I will end up teasing her back.
I have said cocky thing like:
-C'mon look how handsome I am
I have said sensitive things like:
-Why can't we be normal friends?

The only thing I get is teasing: "you are so into yourself", "we are not friends", "what makes you think I am gonna miss you when you go?"


IMPORTANT NOTES:
-Normally our interactions are less than 5 min, 6 or 7 times per class, she is busy dancing with several people.
-Locking in is impossible, the place is full of mirrors.
-Eye contact is really hard, she keeps looking at everyone's feet and movements half of the time. (I actually thinks she avoids looking directly at my eyes when dancing with me, but I am not sure)
-The few times when I have isolated her, I slowly start breaking her shell but for obvius reasons those chances do not last.


-Isolating her looks to me as the obvious solution, but unless she comes looking for me I don't think thats happening.



SUPER IMPORTANT NOTE:
-I do not want to fuck her. She is a very good girl, has a boyfriend and there´s at least two single girls out there I am looking for already.
What I want is to have her think of me, that she desires me.
Call me crazy, but I want to have a couple of girl friends like that, no big deal.





So what do you think? Is this possible?

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Be willing to lose her (especially if your not wanting to get with her). Try using a take away and ignore the teasing and lead the conversation into a general conversation. Tell some DHV stories. Tell her how lucky she is to have met you because she was such a shy girl before and now shes outgoing ect. and then take away again. general conversation/ flirt/build interest/take away. This is usually is a good forula for creating attraction.

Okay I'm trying to understand why you would invest the energy and time into a girl that you don't want to hookup with. Maybe I missed something, I mean she's cute, seems cool. And at the end of the day you just want her to want you with no return on investment. I mean this is a forum where people learn how to pick up on the opposite sex and at the end of the day, seal the deal.

My logic aside, I have a suggestion that may pan out for you. Private lessons. Make sure you mention to her you have a female friend and you two want private lessons. It'll cost you a couple dollars but oh well...pay to play right.

Follow through with a couple lessons with you, the dance instructor and your female friend during those lessons you will have the 1 on 1 time..kinda sorta, and your chick friend will be a buffer for you, this should allow you to do whatever...c&f...push pull...lots of kino cuz it's dancing B-)

During one of the lessons Maybe suggest grabbing some drinks after and if she bites then ur in. If not take another lesson or 2 and if it doesn't pan out abort.

Well, maybe it is just pride. Thruth is, hooking up with her will take too much time and work (she has a boyfriend, limited time, I am going back in two months, blah blah blah) so I am using her as field practice for the future when I find myself with a similar girl.
Also, I like to leave open doors for the future, having options is important to me.








By the way, thanks everyone for your help. It seems that I have been doing much better than I thought.

Yesterday I went to class and nobody showed up but me and her, she said she was tired so we just chatted like for an hour.
It was amazing, she had a lot of fun talking to me, she constantly grabbed my hands to make her point, laughed at my jokes and we both leaded the conversation to how men are different to women and later to sex.

She said how much she likes men she can talk for hours with, asked me about if I had any prospects and almost no teasing at all.



Now I feel I am in the spot I wanted to be with her and I am happy about it.





PS: And about the eye contact, we were talking for about an hour and even though eye contact increased, it was never more than 30%, I noticed that it seems she does not look at people's eyes when talikng, but thats just her I guess.

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