Im pretty me to this but the pay couple of weeks ive been talking to girls at university and approaching at least one per day. ApproachIng has become easier add a result and Im now myself with girls.

But this one girl I approached the other day and made her laugh a few times. I saw her in the library to and chatted for about 15 mins but I was so tired so game prob want very good. She seems to be interested tho as odd asking me questions and laughing. She is so beautiful that I get more like a chode tho. U know the kinds of looks that make you Wanna Marry her rather than just have sex. Iv been thinking about her loads over the past few days since I meet her but I know that if I fancy her to much Ill mess it up because Im too outcome dependant.

How can I stop wanting her in particular so much? I think this feeling of fancyIng her so much would be OK if I had talked to her enough already that she felt the same. But her looks make me feel butterflies in my stomach when I see her and that its not good for my game. Being outcome dependant can not happen this soon without it looking a bit desperate.

advice anyone?

the only way for me to get that out of my system is to 1. see another girl as hot or hotter.(thus starting the chain all over again) 2. fuck her till im sick of her.

walk up to her randomly like you are super frustrated like you have been up all night waiting to tell her this and start rambling about how her looks distract you etc etc....and demand that she take you out. its the least she can do for making you so horny. tell her shes just gonna have to give you the chance to see if she's more then a pretty face or wear a bag over her head everyday, its her choice.

lol I like those ideas. I think direct game is good if you are funny and if you do a bit of push pull ("You have no idea how much I wanna kiss you right now, but we can't..we only just met."). makes you look so confident because most guys dont have the balls to say something like that, and the pull stops you seeming too available.

i'm more inclined to be like this with a good looking girl that I dont know that well cos I think fuck it theres more good looking girls like her if I fuck it up, I just gotta find and approach them.

But this girl is probably the best looking girl Iv seen at uni in the past 3 years. So Im thinking I cant just go out and find one like her that easily as they're quite a rare find.

Plus she's quite posh, private school (but not in a really annoying Ra way), likes art etc. kind of cultured like I imagine a french 40 years old to be even tho she's just 22ish. This makes me feel even more like saying something so direct would not work with her because being posh, she may be taken aback with a comment like that.

Iv told another girl that I met at a party that I'll ask her for a date soon when I finally get a good nights sleep (sleeping had been shit recently), as long as she doesnt get craaazy like she was when she was drunk at the party. She seems up for it so I know I got a second option prob..but even this doesnt give me much more confidence with the hot one.

I think I'll try talking to her again when I next see her. Be funny and chatty and see if she's digging it. And if she is I'll just look her straight in the eyes and say "natalia, come for a drink with me tonight."

The more I piss around talking to her but not having the balls to take it further the less attractive I will get I reckon.

indeed.

i know how you feel i recently when through something similar with this chick. who i swear is the baddest bitch to ever grace my state!

imagine how intimidated guys are by her, and how relieved she will probably be to find a nice guy with the balls to tell her how he feels to her face.

When she is around I start feeling like I need to come across as attractive. I need to make her feel attracted to me. I dont want to come acress as boring or serious. I wanna seem relaxed and jokey but I am too aware of the pressure of wanting her to be attracted to me.

Perhaps I and any one else that starts to feel like this should try and come from the direction of screening her.

She may be hot but what's her personality like? Is she funny and does she give you good company? Or is she boring? Is she clever? Is she insecure? Can she laugh at herself or does she take stuff too seriously? etc. basically, does she provide you with enough of the qualities that you like in a girl?

This is what you would do if you were totally confident in yourself. You may find a girl unbelievably attractive but you wouldnt be trying to attract her or be worried about coming across in a bad way because you would just assume that she would find you interesting and funny and be attracted to you anyway. So you would be more focused on seeing what she is like and if she is worth your efforts.


I'll try this because I dont know this girl at all really. She could be a stuck up bitch. or a game player. Or insecure and not able to take a joke. All of which are pretty unattractive. So by focusing on finding these things out I will hopefully stop thinking about me and how I come across and actually give off the vibe of being less bothered and she has to qualify herself to me.

Another thing to bear in mind is that there are so many girls around that approaching a certain amount everyday will lead to a hotty in your bed soon enough. I've only been actively approaching girls for the past week or so (my goal is just one per day SPAM..more if I want but not necessary) an already come across a complete hotty that I get on quite well with I think.

So there really are a limiteless supply of fish in the sea, and no need to worry as long as you make sure you keep casting out your line.

I'll see if these mind sets work anyway.