How shall I deal with this question? Day 1 she came to my city to do the whole touristy thing and we had a great time. We were flirting with eachother and being playful etc. She also immediately changes her status on Facebook that she had a great time and not laughed so much for ages. Prior to coming down she did just say she didn't want a relationship at the moment but I played the game anyway. It all seemed great,

I asaked her if she wanted to take me to a show sometime next week and she said sounds good.... after a few days I text her today asking her when she wants to go and if there's a certain show aged like tobsee and she's asked if we should invite this girl who's a mutual friend (my old flat mate and good friend) What should I do? Let her invite whoever ans still play the game or be honest and say I'd prefer it just the 2 of us? Or maybe go further and say lets invite loads of people ans have a night out after and try and pull her when I get a chance alone? I know she really likes me as she's told friends, u still don't know to what extent I.e if its just friends.... need to text her tomorrow so quick help would be nice

Rth x

NEVER ask a women to invite YOU or to TAKE you somewhere, because what lies ahead is the dreaded FRIEND ZONE! YOU have to be in control ! youve just put her in the leading position, and thats bad. change that ASAP!


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A fool who knows he is a fool is far less foolish than a fool who has no idea that he is a fool!

Agreed. If you don't take the lead. You're going nowhere. It just shows weakness. Especially when you texted her when are we going to go...sounding desperate.

to me that sounds like a test, she is waiting to see what move you make next. if you're man enough to tell her what you really want(a date alone with her), if you're just trying to get in her pants, how social you are in groups, etc etc. there is a lot she can get from your next move and reading between the lines is where the women excel.

personally i would go with the group option. it sounds like you really like her, but you do not want to seem too easy by devoting to much time to her alone.
this gives you the perfect chance to use her trick against her by throwing her into a social group setting. observe her personality and how she handles it. this gives you ammo to compliment or neg her accordingly. make her your sidekick and see if she falls inline.

if she is great in the group then tell her you like how she handled herself or, tell her now you can see you two would get along great, two outgoing leaders. tell her your probably the only one who can tame her...normal guys can't handle her, blah blah, etc etc

if she is lame in that situation, then tell her that too. tell her im sorry but personality is important to you and that you were expecting more from her(this is the most fun, as it usually leads to her qualifying herself to the max)

be the life of the party.

that means be the one to organize the group, decide when and where you all are going to go. then do it. make the decisions , but give her a role too.
but dont pay to much attention to her, focus on having fun more then any other guys and she will notice you and what you have done to get everyone there.

sorry that was a lil long, kinda got carried away.

keep us updated

GL bro