| Hey, this is my first post! Been a lurker on these forums for a while, and finally decided to step into the big wide world.
I have an interesting one for starters...
I met a girl who was with somebody last year, and as soon as she broke up with him, she started trying to talk to me more. She was travelling (with him) at the time, and left early to come home and be with me at xmas. She told me was falling in love with me, etc. Took it with a pinch of salt.
Anyway, she got back a few weeks ago, and things were great. We moved straight into a relationship, having sex, hanging out. etc.
She has now decided that it's weird being back without her bf living with her, without a job, or any plans. She decided she wants to be single and get to know herself again. I played it cool, said I get it, felt we rushed things, whatever.
Fair enough, so we're back to mid-game here. She's always inviting me over and we've got a lot of things coming up, gigs and stuff, so there is ample opportunity to work on this, and she definitely has nobody else interested in her. She has also told me numerous times that I'm the hottest guy she has ever laid eyes on.
There is a LOT of kino going on, and I work a pretty good sexual framing set. Basically, it's like we're still in a relationship, but she just wants to be single.
So here's the problems, let's see what people think...
1). I don't want to fall into the friendship zone!
There is obviously attraction here, and the potential for her to fall in love with me, and I want to see how far I can take things in this new situation. I'm trying to keep a sexual frame on things so she always feels that chemistry, but what's a good way to avoid just being 'bff'?
2). How to snap her out of her depression?
The only reason she's feeling like this is because she's saddened by her recent circumstances. I'd like to help her as her friend, but also, I want to get some, and need to snap her out of this mind set first. I need to convince her to get rid of her ex's shit from her house, and to move on with her life so she can happily date again.
I find it weird because it's sort of one step forwards, two steps back. We met, went into a relationship without really hanging out much, and have now called off the relationship to just hang out again.
Thanks in advance for your help. Would be interesting to see if anyone has experienced a similar thing, or if this can help somebody else in the future.
Cheers
G
|
CHAT