I know when people ask me alot of questions, it kinda pisses me off. I guess its Just the way I am at the MOMENT, and am open for a change in beliefs if someone intelligently explains why it shouldnt.

Is it bad game to ask alot of questions about herself, will she feel like im just asking too much? Or will she just love the fact she is talking about her self? Im inclined to believe this but from how I feel it wouldnt surprise me if she felt interrogated either, but im a funny dude.

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EDIT: now I have thought about this after reading my post, I guess it only pisses me off when guys ask alot of questions, but if a girl asked alot it wouldnt piss me off so much, or at all.

Maybe girls dont liek other girls asking alot of questions, but enjoy guys asking them alot...

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I am also unsure about asking questions in a conversation.

At one end, people say that we like to talk about ourselves all the time, so if you are the one asking questions, you would seem more interesting to the person you are talking to, you make them feel good (by allowing them to talk about themselves) and you have this air of mystery in a sense that the person doesn't know you (as you are the one asking all the questions) but wants to know you. This concept is taken from an e-book that I have read called "How To Make Great Conversation And Small Talks" which seems to apply to both sexes in general.

Then, there are people in the PUA community who practice indirect game, and say that you are showing too much interest when you are asking too many questions. From what I've grasped, we should only ask questions when our target does, as it is an IOI, so we can reciprocate by "rewarding" her interest.

Any thoughts?

Every girl is different.

Ask her questions you want answers to. Its her choice to answer them or not. Don't waste your time worrying about what strange women think of you. Do as you please. If she doesn't like it she is not a good match obviously.

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Asking questions is how you screen a girl to see if she qualifies. If she doesn't qualify she can't reject you.

If you are interested, act accordingly.

Want to go completely indirect? Be a "nice guy." That is the AFC mentality. That you are just going to nice her into bed with you. Not going to happen.

YOU CAN NOT GET LAID WITHOUT SHOWING INTEREST UNLESS THE TARGET IS PSYCHOTIC!

Okay that is more funny than it is true. Want to attract women? Be attractive. If you are attractive enough then women will just want to fuck you. It's a fact.

But back to the topic, there is nothing wrong with showing interest. The problem with interest is, the AFC mindset just wants to know the girl he has already fallen for. Thats when interest is bad. There is no such thing as the spark. It is a lie.

CHEMISTRY DOESN'T MEAN SHIT!

It can get you laid right away, but it really doesn't mean anything. You meet a girl, you have chemistry. You think she's the one. You date for a bit. She realizes you're not a good match. You're back on the message board sobbing it out. YOU MISSED THE MESSAGE!

Don't fall for the woman until she qualifies over and over again, WITHOUT TRYING. Wait until her "trying to impress you" phase dwindles out, and her true self will be revealed to you. If you haven't fallen for her before this, you will see it all plain as day, and realize that you are in fact NOT A GOOD MATCH.

Ask as many questions as you want. Ask whatever you want. Once she starts asking you things, you've got her hooked. If she says anything about feeling interrogated, then explain your intent with confidence.

Defending yourself is an act of submission and denying your intent is an act of insecurity. Be confident. Tell that girl at the bar you're trying to fuck her. Confidence goes a long way.

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I am trying to correct this about my "conversation skills", what i now try to do is instead of asking simple questions, i usually take a guess in a statement, or ask her a more funny question.
example:
Simple:What are you studying?
Guess:Hum... If i had to guess.. i would say you are studying psychology...
Let me see... so you are a blonde girl with a mini skirt, i would say you are studying agriculture!

or something like:
So.. and what is the boring thing that you decided to study?


This is just some general ideas, i am not from an english speaking country so i'm sorry for any mistakes.

So, the time when asking too many questions is bad, is when you're asking quick, interview style questions to try and build and maintain rapport and seek commonalities. For example

AFC: Where are you from
HB: Spain
AFC: Oh cool. Uh, what do you do
HB: I'm studying
AFC: Nice. What?
HB: Literature
AFC: Uh huh. What'cha reading at the moment?
HB: Oh, lots of stuff. Listen, I gotta go meet my friend
AFC: Oh ok. Nice talking to you

I'm falling asleep just typing that shit!

The next level above that is at least having something to say about the topic. For example

AFC: Where are you from
HB: Spain
AFC: Oh awesome! I love Spain! I visited Madrid a few years back and had an amazing time! I saw X and Y and Z and it was great!

Now here, congratulations on DHVing, but again, you're not getting anything out of her. As soon as you've finished your Spain story, if she doesn't ask you anything, you're back to another interview question for her again.

The next level is turning questions into statements to get her to qualify herself immediately.

rAFC: You don't seem like you're from around here
HB: Why do you say that?
rAFC: Ah you just seem like you're seeing everything around you for the first time, and are a little confused by it all!
HB: Jaja, oh I see. I'm visiting from Spain actually
rAFC: No way! I love Spain -> DHV story.

the final piece is to tell your DHV story in a way which allows pauses for questions that allow her to open her own threads.

rAFC: No way! I love Spain. I actually stayed with a family there for an exchange programme years ago. It was fun but the family was really strange. Lemme ask you - is it normal in Spain for the men to do NOTHING but watch tv in their underwear whilst the women work, and then cook and clean all day?
HB: Yes / No / It depends -> maybe story of her own
rAFC: Yeah cuz the family dynamic was so weird and I felt really bad for the women of the household who were like saints! Is that what your family was like?
HB: Yes / No / Maybe story
rAFC: Oh ok. Well in my family it's like this...

In this example, I'm immediately getting quite personal info out of her, whilst DHVing about travel and understanding cultural difference and family dynamics. At each point, I give her an opportunity to open a thread of her own, but if she gives a one-word answer, I can just move on with my story. This is how you keep building thread after thread, and have that feeling that you never run out of things to talk about and can tell each other almost anything openly.

TRY IT!

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Great advices everyone! I particularly liked the one about making statements instead of just asking. I have recently learnt to do this and I'm getting better results in maintaining a conversation as opposed to the interview style questioning. The other day I met this girl with a really nice and fair complexion, so I said this "You must be slightly atheletic, do you cardio often?" She gave me a confused look and asked why, and I told her that from my observation people who exercise often have good complexion (which was something I really believed in, no matter how irrelevant). But I was wrong, she rarely exercised (or so she said, I still don't believe it!)! Of course, I came back by saying that there is a research about how your intake of sulphur allows your skin to be lighter and have a better overall complexion (this time it is an observation done by scientific research!), and then the topic strayed to food!

I think by making statements and making bizzare connections allows the conversation to go ON AND ON AND ON NO STOP! Thank you once again, for the great advices!

You have some good points, but DHV USING STORIES is not necessary. You can DHV in a more affective way through body language, attitude, and confidence-being comfortable with yourself and not letting people walk all over you.

You want to get her to ASK YOU questions. THEN YOU DHV through story telling. If you are asking questions just so you can talk over and over about her answers and how that relates to you, you are going to come off as self-centered. DHV stories are just a means to sell yourself.

Why are you selling yourself to a women who has yet to qualify for you? Seems kind of desperate.

Being a mystery is more attractive than putting yourself out there. You want there to be something for her to figure out, like a puzzle. If you come off like something hard to figure out, the ego will tell itself "Nobody else can figure this guy out but I will be the one to do so."

You have two ways to converse that will reel her in.

Getting her to qualify for you.
Getting her to see if you qualify for her.

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What goes after these 2 methods? I see you called it rAFC how do you turn that to the next step, PUA?


Can you show some examples? especially if you can format them in a conversation context(HB: says this or does this Guy: says this or does this).