I'm a pretty witty interesting person and can usually hold a set pretty well. However I'm pretty bad when it comes to dealing with stress and find it hard to just relax and have fun when thing aren't going my way. As you all know when your having a good time gaming is easy. Do you guy's know any tricks to get yourself out of your own head and have a good time at the bar regardless of wether your sarging or not?

Thanks.

we all have good and not so good days... one day you are glowing, the other you have a feeling that nobody is even noticing you... it's normal.

and solution for that is some good inner game... it's very powerful and i think one of the most important things in the game... cause you can say anything, with the right attitude it will be perfect, just like you want it to be... read some inner game stuff and that will help you

You really don't have to push yourself on the bad days. Like GeneralS said "we all have good and not so good days". Just accept it.

i Understand wanting to push thru regardless of state and i do it sometimes... would like to get to the point where i can do it all the time. The truth is if you concentrate on having fun you create a good environment. Inner game is the key to get out of your head and into your life. Im not a NLP devotee but i like future pacing and creating a highlight real of past successes also Hypnotica has some inner game stuff that will give bulletproof Self-confidence though temporary

I not really gonna refer you any particular direction. I'm just going to say take a mental note of what your thinking then take a step back examine the emotion this thought provokes. if it's fear it's stupid, if it's do or die feeling it's stupid, If it's "i gotta do this next"... you guessed it, it's STUPID.

I'm not saying control your emotions by controlling your thoughts because that takes years,months at best, who wants to do that? BEGIN NOW! with due respect.

further more who do YOU care about more YOURSELF or some hb10 you just met. The answer should be YOU so if set doesn't wanna talk about what you like, set can go bedy bye. This pick-up stuff is about YOU.and if you decide your life before pick up was fun go for it, though I doubt that's what drew you to this forum. Be as selfish as you can with your time and attention. there are guys who get day 2's with "want to come over and play video games" so find common ground.

This might not work for you but I like blowing a few set on purpose by saying the most outlandish things at first. things only i find funny or inside joke only i know. they look at me like a weirdo and they don't always walk away either but I am very self amused pick up or not. What that does in my head is relaxes me and allow me to go into state being me, Now that I'm having fun, the rest is easy.

the reason your might not enjoy yourself is you've got impulses your not indulging in. It can be as simple as following 3 sec rule or sitting on the floor in a crowded mall cuz you want to watch people's reaction. If it pops in your head let it be ( within reason). close ur eye and do it.

Then i tone down the weirdness and impulsiveness down a bit a run my game. it usually dials me in to my best self, very talkative, positive, heck I think even my penis grows an inch or two. Basically you feel energized, fear is obsolved and your ready to go

Also if you know your going to be stressed, come up with a plan before hand - Every once in awhile i'll carry a list of thing i know will happen in my in sets that'll slow me down like 7 sticking point or so and their solutions. I know because I watch my mental movies of my pick ups in my head after the fact like alot of pua's So when the sticking point/mental blocks/ineer game weaknesses/ come up I look my cheat sheet do what it says and bam! I think I knew this was going to happen just like clockwork, with remedy in hand. Like if you know your landlord is coming 2mm for the rent you put in a envelope in your kitchen so when he or she comes you can deal w/ it smoothly. Not scrambling through you wallet while your landlords thinks of why you suck.

But good luck ironing this kink, I've dealt with this one before. you'll this one had nothing to do with pick up and everything to do with self management.

Stay Red.

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