Ok let's backfill this a little bit: met this cute girl last year at one of my tailgate parties. She was dating a friend of a friend at the time. I made a good impression and she added me to facebook. I moved out to san Diego and forgot all about this girl, 8 months later I moved back to Philadelphia and planned a few more tailgate parties for Penn state in my rv. I sent her a message on facebook asking if her and her boyfriend were interested in joining us for the trip. She replied with they broke up but she'd still like to come and gave me her number. We started texting and my game was solid. She asked me to come to her college to replace her door that her roommate broke (I own a door and window manufacturing business) so I fixed her door and we continued to text back and forth and hung out once a week for about 4 weeks. Our schedules got hectic and we haven't seen each other for the last 3 weeks. She continues to text me everyday but never wants to kick it or go out. The only time we talk on the phone is when she gets drunk.

I feel like this one is slipping. I need to escalate but I am unsure how to go about it. I know she has started to put me into the friend zone. How do I climb back out of it? I haven't even kiss closed yet.

I've continued to go out with other chicks and she goes out with other dudes which is cool but for some reason I'm hung up on this girls fun personality and smoking good looks. Any ideas on how to escalate this girl? One problem is logistics. I lost my license recently and she lives 40 minutes away. She was cool about driving to get me at first but now Shes being shady about it.

Thanks guys!

well, you certainly made some mistakes... if not doing anything is considered a mistake. i also noticed one shit test when she told you to fix her door. you should make a deal, not just come and fix it. she gave you a hoop, and you jumped through it.

also, you are right about friend zone... jeez man, being interested in a girl for that long and not escalate... there are certain ways for escaping from friend zone but my advice is to go on... the sea is full of fish and it's ridiculous to bother with that one... just don't leave it like it never happened. learn from this situation and be aware in future that you will loose a girl if you don't escalate in time...

i think it's much better this way. cause you will have something that you will always remember if you hesitate to escalate again. it will simply scream in your head - YOU WILL LOOSE HER!!! and if you try, you will have to try real hard and loose hell lot of your time you won't get the message. and next time when you hesitate to escalate nothing will scream in your head because you will know that you should recover from friend zone...

but you asked and i'll answer you. there are a few ways to escape from friend zone... one is to cut all comunication with her for about month or two, and to change. to change a lot... to be more successful more elegant, to glow, you need to be a new man... and then you start all over... the other thing is to act to her as a friend. yes, as a friend. to talk to her about your problems with another girls, to tell her a funny story that happened you on work, cause that's what friends does. and girls immediately start behaving different when you try to be friend to her. they are wired creatures who want what they don't have...

the second thing would be more effective if she told you ljbf. but you can try it anyway...

so my recommendations are (in this order):
1. go on, but don't forget this
2. do the first advice to escape from friend zone
3. do the second advice to escape from friend zone

it's your life, you decide