To make a long story short i met this girl that i like in one of my classes about a month back. She didn't mention her boyfriend (I was wondering why she didn't) at all until a few weeks after we were talking (mostly via text) i mentioned how i felt about getting to know her better. She then hit me with "Just so you know i have a boyfriend. I'm not saying anything is going to happen but just so you know".

I decided to keep going on an advancing and even got to play a question game with her where we revealed some secrets and i said "after getting to know each other better, if you didn't have a bf i would've asked you out" and she goes you wanna know a secret of mine ?"if i didn't have a bf i would've consider it". We were talkin from like 1pm to 1am that same day.. Lots of IoI's via text (always replays, responds with questions etc) but i don't know how to escalate or go further...What is the best course of action to take to pull this chick? Like seriously.. how much freakin comfort does one need to build to get a chick to do something with a guy that isn't her boyfriend...........(by the way she's never mentioned him on her own and hasnt mentioned him after that)

Dont be her Tampon . Been in this situation before , If your not that experienced which im guessing then I would move on , its the easy option .

Girls can give IOI's like wildfire whether they want to or not , I know tons of girls that flirt with every lad and yet are as faithful as if she was married .

Wow you talked ... no way ! for 12 hours ! . Been there , if you want her move on thats the only way your going to get her , literally close contact with her or reduce it significantly

1. your removing her safety net ( you )
2. your removing a few of her talkative needs that she wants from a guy ( whilst her bf is seeing to her sexual needs) - if the guy cant satisfy all her needs the relationship will fail
3. Its easier on yourself to move on , find a girl get with her , make the current girl who you like soo much jealous, who knows maybe you will get over her ( just try it).
4 . She doesnt exactly mean what she is saying via im / text . Shes only saying these sort of things because shes comfortable that it isnt going any where why ?
- theirs a physical distance between the two of you when you talk
- She has a boyfriend he wont allow it .
5. Dont be that direct with a girl that you cant have . Its a compliment it makes her feel satisfied , it pushes her away (even if she says she wants you) I have heard these exact words !


Just dont question it , embrace it . Shes not different she's human :\

Goodluck

My personal mantra if I know a girl has a boyfriend is "So what?" Sometimes its more of a challenge, if the relationship is solid, It'll be harder getting her comfortable and you'd get a lot of LMR. Sometimes it's easier, if they guy's a jerk, or if they've just had a fight. At the end of the day some chicks just want to know they can still get attention from guys and won't be too interested in doing anything. If you find that's the case, freeze her out.

At the end of the day, people cheat all the time, you just need to make sure you keep her comfortable and if she brings up her boyfriend again just ignore it/change the topic back to you. Do you ever see her in person? That'd be the next step, go to parties with her, or just get her to a place where she won't be reminded of her boyfriend at all. I mean, while this isn't the same I was at a party last weekend my ex girlfriend was there with her new boyfriend and I was flirting with all the girls, and solidly ignoring her, an hour in I got a text from her saying "I want to kiss you so bad right now" three hours later when her boyfriend went into town she made an excuse and stayed with me, then we went back to mine.

Remember, kino escalation, two steps forward, one step back =]