A girl was brought over to chat with me by a female friend of mine the other night in a bar - She was gorgeous and we chatted for a while until I couldnt hold off going to the toilet and excused myself!!! Anyway when I came back we were talking to other people and as the night went on we just never crossed paths again.

Anyway I got her number off my friend yday and think I will call her this week - To keep it fresh I was thinking of actually calling her tonight....Thing is it might seem a bit random seeing as I never declared or showed any interest to her before now/the other night!

So I was thinking of saying the below:

Hey its Derek you met on Saturday night in the bar, we had X in common. I trust you’ve recovered since sat night(she ended up being sick from alcohol!) ?!! Anyway I cant chat long as I’m in work – so calling to say that I never had the chance to talk to you back in the house party after the bar BUT I was thinking of going to X not this weekend but the one that follows and I was thinking you should come with me – it’d be fun.


What you guys think??

Humm.. your message sounds a little creepy to me, like you are trying a little to hard and as she didnt give you her number it is a bit creepy just to phone her...

if it was me, i would probably text her something like
"Hey Amanda, i think jade is trying to set us up, first she introduces us at the [xyz] bar and now she is saying how cool you are, and how i just have to text you to get to know you a little better.... [[Jade, and i are going to [ygc] this weakend do you fancy coming along so i can get to know you a little better]] or [[i remember you said you liked xyn so....]]"

Hmmm I appreciate your response thanks,

I certainly didnt come across as trying to hard the other night , In fact I probably sounded uninterested having said I was going to the toilet and not approaching her again afterwards.

But I presume you mean i would be Try hard for getting her number off our friend in common.....Thing is our friend in common is leaving the country tomorrow for 4 months (The other night was her going away party) so we won't be doing anything together until then.

One thing I do disagree with in your post (not to sound argumentative) Is the text bit....I dont like texting after first meeting someone as I genuinely think it comes across as a "cop out" instead of calling them.

Rock......Me.......Hard place.

My gut tells me its all or nothing

The inviting her out with your mutual friend was just an example, if she likes cocktails, invite her to a cocktail party, say she can invite a friend, if she is bringing a female friend you bring a male friend (make sure he is ok with you two leaving them alone...), set them to up (her friend will be more receptive with your male friend as her friend has left her all alone for a bit), Separate get to know her a bit better maybe take her for a dance then sit down somewhere else with her for a bit of one on one time...
The reason I suggested text is because it is less pressure for both of you, she can answer in her own time (she might be busy when you call.. one missed call turns into two which can so easily turn into three...... maybe she does not answer calls from numbers not on her phone... there is many reasons it might turn into a missed call)... in this situation I just feel a text is better, and the bit about suggesting her friend is trying to set you up puts you in an even better position....

Many of the pua guy’s text... after first meet, afc Adam recommends texting over phone after first meet... in one of his vids I saw.

if she was expecting the call to all intensive purposes like you said to her I will phone you at 4:32pm then yeah of course call but when she is not expecting the call especially when she didn’t give you her number... call is a bit wired... imaging if it was you, a friend of yours gave some women (who you had talked to only for a little while) your number and she randomly phoned you, you would be surprised or you might be busy or something.....