Hi... I've been reading this forum for a while but never posted anything... Please excuse me if this is not the right place to post this, I did not find any ex girlfriend sections so I guess we are in the mid game with her

I've used some techniques with success but I am really failing with my ex. She broke up with me like 1 year and a half ago... First months I was really needy desperate begging her to come back, then after 7 months she wanted to kiss me in a bar but I did not want to (since I was still hurt and it seemed she just wanted a kiss, probably a mistake though), but overall I always wanted to come back... How shall I act? We are supposed to go out together in the summer when she ends with her finals... What should I do now? Should I call her? How often?

Right now I would say we are kind of friends, she knows I'm interested in her, sometimes I flirt with her and stuff, sometimes she also says hi to me on SPAM and talk for a while... She even tells me good things, the other day she said I was easy going, a good person, once she also said she was really mean with me for dumping me... I do think I attract her a bit but not that much to make her want me back, and especially after being really stupid last year... I have to change that image.

Thanks for your help and for reading my long message!

If she likes you still, keep being yourself, sure call or message her now and then if you want, at random times, never the same time.

DHV yourself, how your busy doing things that are fun, girls don't want someone who does nothing, you have to be the prize remember that!

Look at why she dumped you in the first place? Just take a more ruthless stance with yourself.

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HI, Looking like a interesting thread going on. Its good that people are actually willing to share their views on this topic.

just broke up with my girlfriend after 10 months...pretty mutual breakup but it did hurt...i dont know your situation like how long you were going out and how close you were and how much you liked this girl but bottom line, flat out act like u dont need her in your life at all and let her initiate all the conversation. Thats what i do and my x still tries to talk to me all the time and i just act like i dont need her and impretty sure she wants me more now than she did when we were going out. My breakup with her inspired me to get involved in the PU community and even though having a girlfriend is nice having many girlfriends is probably much nicer! The more i read these forums as well as other work by mystery and neil strauss the less i care about my x gf and the more i just want to go out and practice all of these techniques and meet as many girls as possible, which I believe is the best remedy for a breakup. It's gotten to the point where I am completely over the relationship and sarging is much more fulfilling

breakups are tough but the community makes them easy to forget

Fantastic post. Been through similar situation lately as I have mentioned before in the thread.

Your spot on, the community does help and makes you realise things.

Being nice doesn't always get you somewhere, sometimes a few home truths are needed with ex gf's too, don't let them think they are perfect. Last night I gave my ex some home truths about herself, she always made me feel like the bad one when it wasn't really me who was the problem, she just brought the worst out of me because her low self esteem etc, although I was a bit harsh, I feel better for being brutally honest with myself.

Remedy as stated for a breakup = Sarge, meet new women, have fun, too many out there to stand and hold your head in your hands people.

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That's pretty much why I got into this... I had a 5 year relationship with her, we got together in High School, and then I pretty much spent the worst year of my life after that... Then I read the Mystery's book and started with this, and it is helping a lot. Sometimes I wish I had known all this stuff before, I think my break up would not have been that harsh.

Whatever knocks you down can only make you stronger Don't think of something like that in your past, it's now and the future what matters, not back then.

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then i strongly believe your progress in the community and pick up will be much more satisfying as it will signify you overcoming your breakup (as it has for me). I haven;t had sex since my x but I've been talking to more and more girls and I already feel relieved of the stress and heartache and I am no longer wishing I had my relationship back. In fact its the opposite, I'm so happy I'm single to participate in the community!