Hey guys,

I have been seeing a friend (she's actually the sister of a friend) for ages (we've been hanging out for more than a year) and I have this year been escalating things towards us finally kissing in a club a few weeks ago.

Then, last week we went to another club, as part of a much larger group. I am pretty pissed off because she started kissing another guy a 5 feet away from me. Now, being a growing alpha-male I walked straight over and said "you do realise I'm here right?!! [angry expression]".

We then went and had a long talk about how fucked up bits of her life are.

Anyway, several apologetic text messages later (I ignored the first couple, then was a bit stern).

I'm going to see her tonight, at a thing which was arranged months ago and I am a little worried that I am going to get the "you're too important to me as a friend to risk that on... etc, etc..."

Basically, I don't want to be just friends. I like her too much (yes, I know I'm a sap, but what can I do). How do I deal with this?

• Agree with her and bide my time.
  Tell her I don't feel like I'm being treated much like a friend at the moment--so, whatever.

Many thanks,

atw

PS. Just to prove I am not a complete wuss, I am going on a date with another girl next Wednesday (but I really want the sister mentioned above).

She kissed another guy 5 feet awa from you and you still want her? Sorry man that does enough for me. I would have went and gamed other chicks, fuck her right off.

She's testing you, if you run to her, she's won. Knowing now she kissed a guy right infront of your very eyes and you still want her.

You need to play it kool if your serious about her. Refuse to meet with her if she asks, let her know your busy, doing what you enjoy, and just totally giver her the cold shoulder at times.

So, should I still go to this thing tonight?

Testing--of course. I kind of stopped looking into this PUA stuff when I found it tough last year (knowing that it would probably get into my head on its own over time--and is beginning to).

It's annoying because she has the "thing" (whatever that is) that I really like and very few seem to be able to offer. I think I did the right thing in confronting her about it. Plus I ignored her for two days before responding to her apologies.

Should I tell her I'm going to see the other girl?

I have to be a bit careful because she is also my friend's sister...

You have to be carefull because she isn't just a girl you randomly met.

Go to the event tonight, act yourslf, be fun, don't let any woman steer you away from something, because in my eyes, she wins if she does and mentally your on -1.

Don't tell her your going out with another girl. If she asks, your going out, and that's all.

Sorry to keep asking questions (looks like I'm asking you to baby sit me) but I want to be fully prepared.

What if she brings up the subject of what happened? Am I fine with it or am I (as I really am pissed off and angry)?

What if the "let's just be friends" conversation kicks in? Do I agree or do I (as I want to say), say that is no longer your decision to make...?

No worries man! That's what the forum is for!

If she brings it up, just play it off like it was kool because you did something else.

Anger would be so much AFC.

If the LJBF convo comes about, don't agree or disagree, I wouldn't. Just play things normally. It gets to them. Main thing is, she knows your enjoying life and doing things she don't know about.

Can't really play it off like that, as I stood in a corner of the club with her (thinking about it, being a wuss) listening to her problems [sudden realisation of wussiness]. Then, stuck her and her sister in a cab. The problems of trying to screw your friends sister :s

But wouldn't that mean I was letting her off her poor behaviour? Surely, I should tell her she was out of order (though she has admitted so in texts).

Could you give me an example of how you would neither agree or disagree? :s

Thanks, matey.

Agree as in agree she was wrong right?

I'd agree by saying something like " Well there's more bad girls than good girls around these days" It gets her thinking straight away, but you don't want to go too deep.

I mean, as in: Thanks

I wouldn't agree, simple as or disagree. I'd just let her say her bit. I'd keep having my fun, playing along normally, this is why you must start taking kino more seriously with her, tease her, because it'll be like she has to prove a point.

dude not to go against both of u guys, but the situation is already done... u getting pissed about her kissing another guy was a major AFC move... at worse u should of just played along and kissed 3 girls in front of her... also, dude to me yall have been friends way too long to kind of change shit around... I would just hold onto the friendship put your need for her aside... AGAIN there are a billion more women out there u will be ok without one... this is my advice take it or leave it but I am willing to place a bet that u will not get her...

Okay, I saw her last night and it was great.

I played it like nothing had happened (just like you suggested). I was funny and cool but a little bit stand-off-ish. After about 10 minutes she was kino-ing me; in fact at it's height, I was searching for my phone and she started trying to find it in my trouser pockets (eventually, trying to knick my wallet).

The LJBF conversation never seemed at all likely during the whole evening.

After the presentation had finished we (as usual) had a long conversation outside. As the conversation went on, she started whispering (as if to draw me in--maybe to kiss?) I, of course, didn't oblige (she needs to work harder from now on).

I'm kicking myself a little bit for giving her a big hug before we parted ways (she has great boobs--I cannot resist)

Overall, I am pretty happy as we seem to be getting on better than ever.

I am a little worried that I have let her off so lightly...

Thanks you...

Just keep your distance a bit, don't always have time for her, if she suggests a first day say your busy, she'll want you more.

with this whole alpha business, how do you guys KNOW when the limit is to keep getting her to chase.

I'm 16 and the growing girl population are becoming a lil more independant and won't actually give 2 shits now if a guy blows her off, she'll literally move on aswell.

When do you know to actually stop with the whole, 'chase me' mentality,

Every individual is different. If she likes you, if you act well with your approach and natural game, she will naturally wonder where your at. If you don't come across well, she wont care.