Hey guys. I’m starting to get very confused and don't know what to make of this situation. Here is the story.

A friend of mine introduced me to her friend(HB9). We went out a few times and things seemed to go very well. I did the whole cocky funny thing and she responded to it very well. So anyway we end up making plans for this weekend to go up to the shore and spend the day up there.

A few days after we made plans for the weekend I was talking to my friend that introduced us and she mentioned to me that she is seeing another guy as well and that there is a lot of drama there. I didn't ask any questions because I didn't really want to know anymore. It bothered me a little bit but I didn't really know the whole situation so I tried not to think too much of it.

So anyway the night before the day we are suppose to go she sends me a message saying she is really sorry and she can't go tomorrow because her mom needs her and if we could do it some other time. I just said no problem and that family is first and left it at that.

What do you guys think of this situation? What should I do next? Did she blow me off for another guy? Should I just move on?

I would like to see what everyone’s take is on this.

Thanks

Calling her on it won't do you any good. She probably blew you off.

The most common ones are
im sick
fell asleep
mom made me do something
birthday


Just let it go.. if she doesn't come back to you, she is probably more interested or more involved with this other guy. The most you should do is, later in the week you can ask her how she's going to make it up to you.

Well, don't give up too easily.

Staying at the whole C & F thing all the time won't work though, you've got to move forward.

You don't have the urge to buy a new jacket? Maybe you need a female opinion? Maybe she can come with you and help you with that?

Of course she can.

If not, let it go. For now though, wait a few days and try again.

I would also suggest to not become hung up on her. it sounds like she blow you off that weekend. Remember she has to work for YOUR time. Offer to hangout again but also let her know that your time is valuable. Hope that helps man!

Good Luck!

Just accept that not every single set, day 2, close will go as you want it to. The trick is to try and learn from each situation. It sounds as if the window of opportunity has come and gone.

The first date may have been better played out with a bounce to three seperate locations each with an increasing amount of energy. eg. walk on beach, coffee shop, bar with live music) In each location there should be a hell of a lot of DHVing and some serious monitoring of her and your actions/body languages. The second or third locaiton should be a kiss close, just use a simple kino escalation story with a long eye contact moment. (Trust test followed by tension test "keep eye contact with me - try not to (say quickly then tiny pause) look at my lips! (command)" count off 1.5 seconds and say "Are you a spontaneous person?" *kiss*).

A kiss close on the date should be mandatory - you have this girl's undevided attention and plenty of opportunity to play the game without unecessary interuption. Because you went out a couple times without a close it made you look indecisive and this other guy may have prooved more certain and masculine by comparison (this is not a dig at you just a possible explanation given evolutionary principles).

Your strategy from here on may be one of maintaining informal contact to leave a possiblity however in the more immediate future you'd do well to go out and open 10 sets of HB8's. A couple of positive interactions will make you feel better. It's not who you are who is being refused - it's how you projected or acted. Set goals and get out there, dude.

youre too much of a big deal out of it. She probabably blew you off.
Call her but don't mention the fact that she didnt come, just talk to her, say YOURE having plans for the day/weekend and tell her how fun its going to be but DONT invite her

If you mention the fact the she blew you, you will become needy. She must see that your having fun WITHOUT her and that she should spend it with you, make her ask you out.

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Thanks a lot for the replies guys. I now see all the flaws in my game. I didn't escalate fast enough and I blew it. I just get nervous around new attractive girls which is something I have to work on. I learned from this one though so it wasn't a waste of time. Just have to find the next one now.