A few days ago or so I was posting a reply to someone here about moving the conversation forward by asking questions and learning about a prospective chick. What was interesting is that there where a lot of guys who replied to the initial post by saying that the whole asking questions thing was not good and that "statements" where much better.

Now I had to completely agree and right there I think I was able to learn something to shield a weakness. I'll be staying away from asking questions to get to move the conversation along with a woman after I initiate contact.

However, I have two questions now.

1. If asking a woman about herself and her life is a weak strategy, then why did it do pretty well for me?

2. what is the psychological reasoning for making statement rather than questions?

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I maybe pretty new to this but the reason the questions worked well for you is because she was into you and was willing to see around the questions

As far as the second part, if your asking questions you come off as unsure. Making statements you seem confident and sure on everything that comes out of your mouth. Confidence is key and will ultimately win in the end.

Those are just my thoughts.

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The ultimate 'Make Statements not Questions' comes from Juggler, who noticed the trend that people who are comfortable around each other and have been around each other for a long time, e.g. friends, family, people in relationships, tend to make statements about each other then ask questions. By making statements about a girl, you create threads as well as amplifying the comfort that you guys feel.

E.G.
You: You look like a Jersey Girl.
Her: NO WAY! How did you know?
You: flirt/cold read/whatever/etc.
---------vs-----------
You: Where you from?
Her: Jersey
You: Cool.

I know that those examples are biased as either one can have any range of responses, but in the first one, you're more likely to be seen as an authority figure in her life, someone with a dominant frame and a dominant reality, as well as someone that is obviously comfortable around her.

To sum up; Asking questions isn't 'weak,' it's just not as strong as making statements. Both are effective, although making statements generally give off the air of you two being more comfortable around each other, which is a major positive.

I think that questions should definitely be used, but usually not when initiating contact. It can be good to throw out statements like the one used "You look like a Jersey girl", however those can't last you an entire conversation so real questions need to be asked. Ask them, get the info (AND YOU'LL WANT IT FOR LATER!) then find a statement to make her laugh or think, something creative/bold.

Questions can definitely benefit the player. The more you know about your target the more likely you are to conquer it, especially if it isn't going to turn into a one night stand.

Disclaimer: I'm not a PUA nor do I accurately represent the skill sets of genuine PUAs. This is just my "two cents" from what has worked for me.

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